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RSSThe art of listening!
One day one of my friends came up to me, all disgusted and disgruntled and said that after days of argument over nothing and everything, his woman had left him. Though I had anticipated this long back, I still asked my friend to tell me what exactly had gone wrong and how. Well, he wasn’t really clear about any specific reason and said that even after trying his best to impress her, she seemed to have grown to bored or resentful for reason he just couldn’t make out. And there he was!
When you like a woman or take her out for a date, the first thing that strikes you is impressing her, isn’t it? And what do you do? Well, you start thumping your chest as loud as you as like a gorilla which in your words means, ‘Look what I can do”. You start blowing your own trumpet and graciously start telling her what you’ve done or what you can do. In a nutshell, you start talking about how great you are!
My dear friends, this is the first step which you miss and it ends up becoming your last in your relationship with your woman. If you keep your lady listening to you for all the time you meet her on your date, she’ll is bound to get bored and irritable of you.
The solution!
The solution to this is the opposite of what you do, my dear! Just close your mouth and let your lady talk. This is so because woman love to talk. You only participation in the conversation should be to interject a positive comment in between to show that you are paying attention to what she is saying and you are approving every bit of it. Sometimes you can also rephrase what she is saying and repeat it for her. This really impresses a girl as she feels important and if she feels important, you are going to be made the king the rest of time in future.
So after you immediately start dating your lady, let her speak as much as she can or wants to Let this continue for the first month of your dating.
Well, my list of advices never really seems to end. My next article will be a continuation of this one only so keep yourself glued and be a good listener!
