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Posts Tagged ‘woman’
Sun, August 17, 2008 10:50 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 Dating is not just taking any girl out for a spree. If you really want to have the girl stay with you for life, make sure you don’t miss upon some essentials because even if you slip a bit, you can end up in a flux which you certainly wouldn’t want to fall into, I’m sure!
When asking a girl out for a date, you may face different situations most unexpectedly. Before you lose you temper or get muddled up in thinking what to say and what not, be prepared to anticipate the unknown. How? Well, by read what we have for you written below. These are some common scenarios that one may confront on regular days while talking to their dates. It could be while asking them out for dinner, a moment when she has unexpectedly become annoyed or said something to you that might never have expected.
Let’s consider a situation first!
Suppose you are in a nightclub. Asking your girl to dance with you when she has just met with her group of old friends, will receive a negative response even if she likes the look of you. Learn to read the signals of the situation in a positive way. So asking a girl to dance at midnight when the DJ is about to play the last song will usually get you nowhere unless both she and you are desperate and really want to have some fun.
Therefore while being flexible and semi available, know your subject in advance and work out when she is most likely to be available if possible. If your timing is right, you could easily get lots of positive responses that will lead on to something more special.
• Always try to understand when a woman has good reason to say no
• Try to be a bit flexible and offer an alternative
• Don’t argue with her if she says no -move on
• You should always sound busy
• Life’s strange. You should learn to accept that some people you will meet at the wrong time
• Choose a weeknight for the first date if you can manage
• Never be scared of asking. It will only make you confident.
• Just don’t get annoyed if she says no. Smile!
• Always try and know as much about your date’s circumstances in advance only if she is known to you already
• Try not asking her out when she is clearly busy or stressed or unhappy or not well
These tips have already helped many to smoothen their dates and play their parts to the best of their abilities. Hope it does for you!
Tags: Date, dance, woman
Wed, August 13, 2008 10:07 am By James Coolridge
 If you are planning your first date, ensuring that everything falls into the right place from asking your girl out to choosing a day for the same are essentials you can’t afford to ignore. The most advisable days, however are the weekends when you can be relaxed and oblivious of your issues at work. But some people prefer week days for the reasons best known to them. Let’s see the pros and cons of weekends and weekdays so that you have the best to choose from!
So, when planning a date you may want to think about the attractiveness of a week night which can work to your benefit. But if you see, weekend is the only real free time people get. Well, the idea is not to make you diarized but again it is a fact of life in the early stages of dating and it helps too. However a week next Saturday for a date takes away some of the glamour I admit. For those thinking about weekdays, it is needless to say that they are fairly dull affairs in comparison and many take up hobbies or spend away rest of the time commuting.
The benefits!
Weekdays are far less formal than a weekend and a first date on a weeknight can be seen as far more relaxed and informal. Besides, week nights are not late night affairs and an unsuccessful date can be gently brought to an end. Therefore a dinner after work may be a good thing to wind up the day. All you need to do is just be yourself and go with the flow. You are not competing with some other glamorous occasion the girl could have attended so you are quite far away form facing any trouble.
Experience says that dating in the middle of the week also opens up the possibilities of more dates in a shorter amount of time and successful dates can be prolonged by now having them on weekends.
What if the girl says no to you?
All you need to do is be flexible with your arrangements. If a particular date or time does not suit the girl then be prepared to give her a choice of dates and locations. Also try to understand when she has reasons for doing other things and not choose to come with you. Most of the times when someone says no for a date, you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. This can prove to be a wrong habit. It is important for you to let her know that you are interested in her and that you don’t mind changing your plans because you care about what suits her and what not. The most imperative thing to be kept in mind here is the impression of you being too available because this may come across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate.
Tags: First Date, girl, woman
Sat, August 2, 2008 12:48 pm By James Coolridge
You could say these are some secrets about women, men fail to understand and hence even before they set their foundations in a relationship, they find themselves out of it. Let’s look at some of these.
Being too much of a nice guy doesn’t really help all the time!
Have you ever seen that some very attractive women never seem to be getting attracted to guys who are truly good in real sense? Well, this is quite a common phenomenon. You might have often seen your so called attractive female friends dating men who are real ‘jerks’ and even if you’ve wanted, they’ve never really shown any interest in you.
 The answer is right here!
Women do not necessarily base their choices on men who are ‘nice’. They find it a bit too mundane. They choose men they feel strongly attracted to. In other words, they pick men they feel a strong gut level attraction for. So can’t nice guys be attractive? No, not for women at least. Being nice doesn’t make a woman feel that powerfully attracted to them. Yes, this may sound weird, saddening and absolutely illogical but it is a proven fact and you need to get over. Until you accept this fact and begin to act on it, you’ll NEVER have the success with women that you want. There should be some streak of madness in you. Something that’s extremely interesting for the opposite sex to get attracted to.
Never try to convince a woman about you!
So what do you do when you find the woman you really like but shows no active interest in you? Well, the thing that most guys do is they try to convince the girl towards liking them to the best of their abilities. Okay, lets get it right. You can never change the way a woman feels when it comes to attraction. It is the most impossible thing to expect on earth. You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with “logic and reasoning”. When a woman just isn’t interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.
But we still do it! It is just wastage of energy so avoid doing it!
These are a few of the many things we have for you towards understanding how a woman feels and thinks about men. There are no classifications, no rules and no decrees. Only paradoxes so before you fail another attempt to lure a woman, lets read some more reasons for the same in our forth coming articles!
Tags: Relationship, woman
Thu, July 24, 2008 11:58 am By James Coolridge
 Are you looking ways to make your girl happy? Trying to make her complemented? Wanna impress her with your words and ways? Just a minute. First read these few lines before you make the next move. What is it that a girl will look for in a compliment? Girls don’t want a guy to start in on her about how beautiful she is. Most women already know that they are attractive. And if they aren’t the of course they are intelligent to know that you are lying. Remember they have already had plenty of years without you around and are pretty good judges about when somebody is making false compliments to her. If you compliment a woman too much then remember that you are putting way too much in value in her hands. She will automatically assume that she is very much better then you. Want to put yourself in problem? Now even if she is you don’t want the perception to be what it is. You want her to think that you are the “catch. Make her feel she is lucky talking to you.
A way to do this is not compliment their appearance but complement on who they are and what they do. It makes a woman feel very important when someone is complimenting where they work or a hobby they have.
Try out a few examples-
1. “It seems like you have a really awesome job there. I bet that place is lucky to have you.” You simply made her feel that she is doing something worthwhile. And now you have recognized it.
2. “I can tell from how you carry yourself that you are great at tennis.” This allows you to compliment her body without making it painfully obvious.
Women always feel good to know that they are more than just objects to us. So remember when you just compliment their beauty then they really know what you are truly after. They love to feel that what they are doing is a good thing and when you make a point on that just reassures them.
Tags: Dating, Girlfriend, woman, Body, Man, impress, complements, tennis
Tue, July 22, 2008 11:39 am By James Coolridge
 Men and women are entirely different when it comes to the matter of relationships. Many men find it hard to adjust a woman who always complain and are moody. They are fed up with women that nag and complain or are moody. How would the man feel if they knew that they are the cause and the angry woman is the affect! “But I’ve done nothing wrong!” Shout the men, “she’s just crazy, I do love her can’t she see that!”
Here a few issues are taken up to b brought up to then notice of women folk. How many times do you ask your man to do something and it doesn’t happen? Do feel that you just can’t trust him to do what you ask?
Haven’t you ever wished to hear from him something that makes you feel good without being prompted from you? Of course you know that you’re not the most beautiful woman in the world but still yes you just want to know you’re beautiful in his eyes.
How many times do your man let you down and made you to take control? Do you wish he would just be a man! Many times haven’t you felt like a normal woman who needed to be looked after by him?
How many times do you drop hints with a vain hope that your man will pick up on these signals. Is he blind to avoid the signals?
How does all this make you feel? Yes I know, frustrating isn’t it?
The next few lines are meant for men.
Didn’t you ever wanted your partner behave in a way you just don’t get?
Have you felt something wrong but fail to understand what it is?
Do you get as frustrated as she just does not make sense, you then argue and that just makes it more worsen.
Remember women do not think about relationships the way that men do. She is after good emotions that you could present her. Try to make her happy and comfortable to have a happy life.
Tags: Love, Relationship, trust., woman, emotions, Man
Mon, July 7, 2008 4:38 am By James Coolridge
 Women really get all the more powerful in a first impression situation. Wonder why? This is because guys never get it right. You spill the drinks, crack poor jokes that is hardly worthy of a grin, stumble and fumble over our words, and to the extreme, you never stop until the situation completely embarrasses ourselves and completely misrepresented ourselves. On the contrary, women spend their first dates with calm. They would never fumble around and look stupid for the sake of saying a simple “Hi”. Why? There is only one answer- they are not in a position that entails pressure.
You know you are cool, but that often doesn’t help. You often fall into a problem of dealing with issues of first date in a weird manner. You should never forget that in the dating world, the lady friends start rating your performance on the very first date. But they are not rated for their performance. They are not in a position of judgment. This makes them relaxed, which in turn makes guys a little nervous.
So how can you become a good catch? Read on to get the answer.
First of all, you should get comfortable in your own skin. Making a few mistakes will also help you score better.
Secondly, keep the things simple. You should not make things so complicated. When you approach a woman on a hope for a connection, you don’t have to walk up to her with a plethora of comedic lines or enticing conversation starters.
Give them a chance to open up, because women can be really good talkers. Giving them signals to make them aware of your existence to hop into bed with you is a surefire way to get dumped. So, let the open up verbally. This may also lead to the physical opening up that you are hoping for.
Tags: first, woman, approach, Impression
Thu, June 26, 2008 10:02 am By Judy Sly
 It is a fact that the present day women are in better paying jobs whereas it was women hardly worked in earlier days. Most of them either worked on a cash register or a typewriter. So, from the social point of view, women have changed. The society has changed its outlook about the ability of women. Let it be military or the teaching profession, women are flourishing everywhere.
But when it comes to dating and sexuality, women have not changed. After a lot of observations, I may say that the personality and lifestyle of women are still unchanged. They are in fact, liberalist. Nothing has changed. Men pick up the dinner bills just as they did fifty years ago. Sex is easily obtainable as it was during those days. When it comes to dating, women in the present date are replica of the women of the fifties. The only change in women is that they are no more in fear of becoming pregnant. The credit goes to better birth control methods today.
Tags: Date, woman, old, thinking, rude
Tue, June 24, 2008 4:39 am By James Coolridge
 Many guys find their own lives on hold for the woman they want who hangs around them appreciating their friendship. The women on the other hand, would never look at them as anybody else other than “good” or “best” friends.
When a woman meets a guy for the first time, she won’t take more than a few minutes to categorize him. If she files you away in the friendship file, then dude, just forget anything further ‘coz you will be stuck there forever. So, the best suggestion will be to move on and find another girl.
Well, moving on is not that easy in case if you have been secretly pining over for a girl since long. If you really want to have a change in your life, break the silence first. If you want to be more than a handy friend, just be up front about what you feel for her. If she maintains that she doesn’t love you more than just a friend, then why on earth should you hang around her? I hope you are not nuts to still believe that one fine day she will come up to you and realize that she needs you more than just a friend.
So should you break the years’ long friendship? Well, I say that there is no harm in maintaining the friendship with her. However, if you have started harboring feelings for her and keep it in secrecy, you should know that you are not doing justice to either one of you.
The stage of confession to a “friend” is at times a risk. But, you have to make the first move and speak your mind ‘coz the more you delay, the longer you are being unfair to both of you and the longer you are developing sexual fantasies that are less likely to come true. If you wait for that “right time” for confession, the more you are portraying yourself as her faithful little pet. You may even find that you are being used. You will become a handy friend, her shoulder to cry on and her loan department. Do you really want to be treated like that? Think it over.
Tags: Relationship, girl, argument, meet, woman, boy
Sat, June 21, 2008 1:21 pm By James Coolridge
 Infidelity can shake the foundation of even the most solid and firm relationship. It leaves nothing but built up feelings of painful guilt and anger. The relationship ultimately becomes a tale of betrayal. Infidelity is the mere violation of loyalty, which many couples are now doing it casually. It is quiet evident from the increasing percentage of men who are literally torn between two women. Yes, we are talking about man’s infidelity, which in no sense trails behind the infidelity of their female counterpart.
According to a recent study, about 65 percent of men are in another relationship outside of their marriage by the age of forty. The wife on the other hand lives with the imaginations of the husband in relationship with another woman.
So what went wrong with the men? Well, there are a ton of reasons to relate to men showing unfaithfulness. Once the exact problem is identified and understood, the female counterparts can find better solutions to man’s infidelity.
Most men find the mere foundation of their marriage to be very weak. As a result, they try to find better shoulder to lean on, which is probably found outside of their marriage.
However, it will take a lot of time and effort to rescue the marriage. The unfaithfulness shown by the husbands can make it difficult for their wives to trust them all over again. In fact, it will be difficult for both the partners. When it comes to the husband who has shown infidelity, it will be very hard, perhaps the hardest to admit. Well, honesty is the best policy at this point of time. Admitting to your woman that at some point you were attracted to another woman can surely ease some pain. This may bring about shock to your woman at initial stages, but that’s much better than keeping her in the dark about your extra marital affair.
When you succeed in admitting your fault and have decided to sit with her and try to work things out, then this is a green signal for a whole new good start.
After the storm, it is now time to pick up the pieces and construct the relationship once more, and make the foundation of your relationship much stronger.
Tags: Relationship, cheating, affair, woman, Man, catch, spy
Sat, June 21, 2008 1:12 pm By James Coolridge
 Telling your spouse about your affair with another woman may lead to a war of words, or even a break up. Admitting about an affair is quiet risky ‘coz this can put your relationship into a standstill, but dear reader, you have to do it, with courage. Before taking the step, there are three things to consider.
Take the ethical dimension first. This may be subdivided into two divisions- the teleological viewpoint and the deontological viewpoint. The former is based on what is best in terms of ultimate consequences of an act whereas the latter is based on a conclusion that “right is right and wrong is wrong”. If you have a teleological viewpoint, you may feel that it is best not to mention about your affair to your spouse ‘coz you may feel that it is better off that way. On the other hand, if you have a deontological viewpoint, you may end up in admitting your affair to your spouse ‘coz you will feel that right is right and wrong is, indeed, wrong.
Revealing about your affair to your spouse may lead to an immediate break-up. She may feel that the situation has gone beyond control. Hence, the social dimension- your kids, your extended families- should be considered before confessing the affair to your spouse. You should think about the consequences that the bad news may have in your kids, the rest of your family members, and most importantly, your marital status.
Now let us come to the psychological dimension. Consider this- what was the basic need for an extra marital affair? Ask yourself the reasons for what you have done. Was it out of lack of love, understanding, care and mutual respect? Have you fallen out of love for your partner? Think it over…
Tags: Relationship, cheating, affair, woman, Man, catch, spy
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