When the thought of a make out session is hijacked by your impending work deadlines, serious damage control is in order.
At times you might have had a terrible day at work, long hours of meetings, and your phone continuously ringing. All you can think of is your comfortable bed with no, not your partner, but some pillows for company. If such is the case you are not alone in the race. Job pressure, big city blues, overall lack of time leads to lack of intimacy in the bedroom. In other words, your interest to intimate fades out with time. You start considering it as a work and stop enjoying even the thought of intimating. The main culprit is nothing but fatigue-both physical and mental.

Here are a few tips that will help you overcome your problem:

• If you are too tired to do it at night try morning sex.Its the time when you are well rested. If low energy is the problem try and work out more.

• You can try mood enhancers such as aromatherapy, sexy scents or sexy thoughts, play yours and your partner’s favorite music.

• Don’t treat sex as a job that you have to get over with as fast as possible. Give time to lovemaking. Try and be romantic.

• If there is no time plan some exclusive time for lovemaking. And try and make that time the most memorable one which you can cherish for times to come.

• Since your relationship is some years old now don’t take each other for granted. If you do so there would be no charm left in your relationship.

• If you want to relax your self when you back from office meditate and shed all stress and anxiety and then think of lovemaking.

• Good sex will energize you emotionally and the adrenaline rush can result in high energy levels.

Sex life should be important for you. You have to prioritize and make the effort to create the ambience or schedule time for it.Sex is said to be the glue that holds couples together and also remember that will be the first one to wear out when you are busy with work or over stressed in life. Sexual frustration can precipitate a downward spiral and pull you down helplessly .It also prevents you from being able to reduce your stress. No sex leads to even less sex.

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How often do you feel that your relationship is going in a flux, just because it’s been a bit too long that you’ve been in it? Cliché no longer helps you! There is something you really need to spice it up, something that helps you gain your lost passion and those moments of madness. Well, a streak of madness is certainly essential to keep the wick of passion burning in a relationship. Be it adventure, sex or romance, the idea is to explore new horizons and enjoy the beauty that only a relationship can bring into our lives.

Here’s a little game that may help you:
Get 20 pieces of paper and make 20 different cards. You are supposed to write an idea on each card like the things she would want you to do and things that you would want her to do for you. We always have our hidden fantasies, don’t we? So the topics could revolve around sex, romance, adventure or anything that’s been on your mind lately. Each card will be double sided with the name of the category on the outside and what you would want the other person to do towards the inside. For example: Outside – Sex ; Inside – In the elevator!

The fun part begins now:

• Put all the cards in a hat.
• Split them according to the category, designating a place for cards on each topic.
• Each week, one of you chooses from the cards of the other person.
• After drawing, you don’t look inside yet.
• You see what kind of card it is (Sex, Romance, Adventure) and decide whether to keep it or not.
• If you choose to keep it, you have to fulfill whatever it is on the card
• If you drop it, choose another card till you draw a different kind. After a card is drawn, it’s out of the game. The one week period between draws can be shortened or extended.

Here are some examples of the things you people can do together:
Romance:
• A candlelight dinner with your lover in a restaurant which she chooses (you pay)
• A romantic evening at the Opera
• Visiting the theatre
• Having a picnic at the nearby forest

Adventure:
• Go-kart racing
• Bungee jumping
• Jet-skiing on the local lake
• Parachuting

For the other category, you can be the best person to think what suits best to you and our partner. Physical intimacy plays its role only if the relationship you are has seen many years of togetherness and the trust factor is high enough. If you do share this, all you have to do is give wings to your imagination!

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Great sexual compatibility comes with time and mutual tuning. Though sparks may fly on the first night but with each passing night your partner opens upto you and your sexuality. Here’s how you can reverse the table and get her all lusting for you.

Have More Fun
Your chic lady might just be a naughty super freak on the inside — it’s up to you to wheedle that out of her. The key: Tell her its okay. “Women are conditioned to fulfill the role of ‘good girl,’ ” says Judith Scherven, Ph.D., coauthor of Be Loved for Who You Really Are.”They need a green signal from you to break the ice, to change from being their parents’ good girl to being your hot girlfriend.”

Give Her the Power
Imagine her doing something feral, and then describe it to her. “You have to see her that way before she’ll be able to act that way,” says Scherven. “She has to feel confident that you think she’s capable of it.”

Show Her Off
“In public, speak softly how much she turns you on and combine that with some neck kissing,” says Ian Kerner, author of She Comes First. Get her used to feeling sexy in public and she’ll reciprocate in private.

Tease Her All Day
Plant a long kiss on her and tell her you can’t wait to get back to her later. Follow up with phone calls and you’ll both be counting the hours.

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Ok guys you have been married for an X number of years, but that absolutely does not mean that you should get into a rut. Move it man shake up your marriage and add a bit of spice into it.
Happy and healthy relationships take a lot of effort, but if you are truly committed to make your marriage/relationship work, a bit of creativity and effort on your part, romance can become a delicious element of your relationship.

Dress up for your wife/partner
Believe me tattered sweats, mid paunch and the unkempt look does not appeal to women, even your wife of X years finds it a turn of. Taking care of your clothes and your body, losing those extra pounds around your mid-section, will not only improve your health but will also increase your energy and sexual appeal (you will be startled at how willing your wife has suddenly become).

Touching
Physical touching (of the non-sexual type) is very important in creating a romantic mood. So be sure to add a few hugs, caresses and gentle kisses through the day. Hot sizzling sex does not happen if there is virtually no physical touch throughout the day and evening, it has to be cultivated. Offer to massage your partner with scented oils to add extra zing to your love life.

Communication
Yes this I know you have heard it many times, but it is true, communication is the ultimate way to romance. Make time during the day to call or text message your partner to let them know you are thinking about them. (and for heaven’s sake don’t use that time to complain about bills piling up or work problems) A naughty text message or note goes a long way in adding sizzle to a relationship.

Plan something unusual
Plan an activity that is unusual for both of you, it doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive. Give her a spa treat or get a couples massage or take her for a walk at the beach at night, or simply buy her a gift for no reason. Doing something that she least expects will definitely up your romance quotient.

Spicy Sex
Sex is one of the most important factors of marriage but can become boring after a couple of years, keeping it exciting is crucial for a happy marriage. Try different things like role playing or sexy games like strip poker or strip scrabble. Also try sending the kids to grandma once a week so you can get a wild and loud.

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If you are like most men, you would spend many hours letting your imagination run riot about sex. You would imagine all sorts of positions, love making techniques and imagine a situation where your woman gives you intense response which makes you feel like heaven. At the end of the day, your main goal will be complete satisfaction. However, the picture will be somehow incomplete if your partner is not satisfied. So what will satisfy her completely and make her storming for more? Read on and get the answer.

It is the foreplay which unlocks all her treasuries of passion and intimacy. Without foreplay, your sexual intercourse is dull and boring. Foreplay is a spark that ignites unquenchable fire in her which makes her want for more.

You may attain orgasm within the first 5-7 minutes of penetrative sex. However, the passion for sex doesn’t just come in a single blow for women. The attainment of orgasm is a gradual process for women. They need at least 15 minutes of penetrative sex to attain their first orgasm. At this point, most men loose their steam rapidly. As a result, women won’t be able to attain orgasm. Hence, it takes time, skill and concentration to build up pleasure in women. You should be skilful enough to preserve your sexual strength till your woman culminates in orgasm, which gives her immense pleasure, excitement and satisfaction. All these process are attained through good foreplay.

Sexual touch gravitates to the sensitive erogenous zones and a good foreplay stimulates these zones. Gentle caressing and erotic gestures all are parts of a good foreplay which is highly needed for the pleasure build up in your woman.

However, you should not rush through foreplay, as is done by most men. Most women prefer prolonged foreplay and slow seductive approach. Physical faculties are used by most men during sex but, women use both physical and psycho-emotional faculties during sex. Pushing or forcing them for sex won’t generate any pleasure in your woman. You should remember that women want to feel cherished.

Foreplay is very important for the build up intimacy between you and your partner. A good foreplay is passionate and adventurous exploration of all the sensitive, intimate and erogenous zones. Hence, foreplay should be done with skill, affection and attention. 

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It is a well established fact that sex is a powerful, pleasurable and a unifying activity. It unites the body and souls of two individuals. When it comes to the magnitude of intimacy and satisfaction in a relationship, nothing can be compared to sex.

We all know that women desire more from sex than men. Sex is viewed by men and women from different perspectives. For men, sex is for attaining physical pleasure whereas; sex takes both physical and psycho-emotional dimensions when it is viewed from women’s perspective.

So here pops up a question- what do women exactly want from sex? What, according to women, is a completely satisfying sexual intercourse? What all would make women want for more?

There is a one-word answer for all these questions- Orgasm. It sounds a simple word, but it is difficult to attain. It is the attainment of orgasm that culminates the whole game of sex. Orgasm is the stage which unleashes the reserves of pleasure, intimacy and affection. Though there are many faces of attaining the ultimate enjoyment of orgasm, a few deserve special mention.

You should know that most women want to reach orgasm, but very few of them actually attain it. Most women don’t reach orgasm because it takes much longer for women to experience orgasm. Men can attain complete sexual satisfaction by 15-20 minutes of penetrative sex, but women require much more time to reach the ultimate satisfaction. Most women need clitoral stimulation, excessive foreplay while others consider oral sex as a necessary prerequisite to reach orgasm.

Another facet or orgasm is the intensity. There are weak as well as very intense orgasms. Weak orgasm is a problem for many couples. Many factors contribute to weak orgasm. Small sized manhood, low libido, insufficient foreplay, low staying power are the major factors that contribute to weak orgasm. On the other hand, an intense orgasm means that you have won her over. And if you are skillful enough to reproduce intense orgasm each time you have sex, she will be much more delighted and will be storming for more.

If you are able to give your partner the sex life of her dreams, she will unleash all the reserves of intimacy, passion and pleasure lying dormant in her. The only thing to know is what to do and do it with all your heart.

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Sex is vital for the sheer survival of marital life. Most relationships become distant when sex becomes less. Many couples even walk out from their relationship due to lack of sex.
The process of getting into the mood for sex is different for men and women. For men, the process of lovemaking is simply the ways by which they can show their partner how much they love them. On the other hand, women are more emotional. A woman needs emotionally attached to respond to a man sexually. Hence, it becomes important for men to create the right emotions as to increase the chances of have a satisfying and exciting sex life.

The best way is to engage with your woman to create an ambience so that both of you feel good about. Since it is the right emotions that your woman is expecting from you to get her into mood, find out ways to hook her to you emotionally.

Communication is the key. So, communicate with your spouse and find out her likes and dislikes. At this point, it becomes important to remind you that a woman falls in love with a man when she feels great to have around him. This is because she tends to attach her great feelings to him. So, make your spouse feel great about you, about your relationship and about your love for her. 

As a result, sex becomes even more important to both of you. When you do it at the right time and the right way (as she expects), the frequency of sex automatically increases. You both will then get closer which will give way to more great emotions and even more desire for sex.

When you are attached to each other both sexually and emotionally, the bond becomes even stronger. Your relationship becomes just the way you want it!

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Chemistry is an unmistakable property of attraction. It is the driving factor and the unspoken power behind the best love affairs. Good chemistry with your partner means that you are aware of her presence even without making eye contact. At the end of the day, chemistry matters in a relationship!

Chemistry is literally smelt. It is not the smell of the cologne, which she uses, but the divine smell of her unscented self, which you love to intensely. We may not be aware of the presence of the “smell”, but it surely exists. This is what is related with the word “chemistry” in the context of relationship. Therefore, if you don not have the chemistry, then the relationship will come to a dead end, end up with either one or both partners being unfaithful. They may even have found someone else with whom they are able to maintain this chemistry.

You should not confuse chemistry between making love and having sex. Lovemaking should not be compared to sex, although sex seems to be good or even great. In a true love affair, lovemaking is to gobble every beautiful morsel of the other. The only gateway to have this immortal affair is chemistry.

Now the question is- can you make chemistry? Well, we would say that chemistry couldn’t be MADE, because your chemical signature is created by your genes. It also forces us to prompt a small “yes”, because you can alter your visible chemistry. It involves switching over to a healthy diet, exercise and quit smoking. This way, you can make your noticeable chemistry more appealing to others.    

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When it comes to lovemaking, men and women are heterogeneous. A man won’t need much time to get prepared for the love making session as they are “switched on” automatically. On the other hand, women need some time to get themselves ready for the love making session. While you may desire the penetrative sex, all that she desires may be a good kiss to arouse her sexually. So why should you be selfish and enjoy the pleasures of lovemaking alone? If her wish is granted, it will definitely reciprocate! So go ahead and shakes every nerve in her by kissing her passionately. After all, it is one of the best romantic gestures!

You should accept that women love kisses. You will be on your way to satisfy her by giving her a good kiss. So, don’t get tired of whenever she asks for a kiss. Lean in a posture that is comfortable for both of you and start kissing slowly and softly while holding her hands. Don’t rush; make her relaxed to be kissed. Her body will be automatically responding at a certain point and then she will take the charge. When she takes the charge, don’t confuse, stay back, and allow you to be kissed. Remember, the kiss should be so sweet as to make your woman asking for more.

If you want to make her go wild, don’t do many things at a time. Your hands may want to go everywhere while you are kissing but it is better to concentrate on each step of making love. Not all the kissing ends up in sex but it surely satisfies her largely.

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When you are fantasizing about sex, you may imagine all sorts of techniques, positions and a scenario in which your woman responds with utmost intensity, which makes you feel like heaven! In your erotic reveries, have you imagined what all can give your partner utmost satisfaction? What are the elements that can unlock all her passion and intimacy? What all can convert the sparks into unquenchable fire in her being? Read on to find all the answers.

The passion, of course, won’t come in a single blow. As far as women are concerned, it is a gradual process for them culminating in orgasm, which requires skill and intensity. You should know that it takes time, concentration, and skill for pleasure to build up in women. This is very important for the mutual enjoyment. In short, the culmination of orgasm is through foreplay.

Foreplay is not an issue for men. A man easily gets aroused and usually culminates in orgasm within five to seven minutes of penetrative sex. However, it doesn’t apply to women. They require at least fifteen minutes of penetrative sex to experience their initial orgasms and at this point, most men will be losing steam. Therefore, it is quiet clear that men should have the sexual strength that should be preserved as to build up the pleasure quotient in women more rapidly.

The mutual pleasure is achieved by foreplay.  Gentle gestures and caressing stimulates the sensitive erogenous zones. The pleasure builds up in the woman and as a result, the time duration of physical exertion by the male to produce orgasm is reduced largely.

Moreover, the more intense the foreplay is, the more intensely is the orgasms. If foreplay is absent, you woman will either experience a weak orgasm or no orgasm at all. Most men rush through foreplay and get straight into sex. On the other hand, women prefer the approach to be slow and seductive. This is because men use physical faculties while women inculcate both physical and psycho-emotional faculties during sex.

Foreplay builds up the mutual intimacy. Hence, it is very important to have foreplay before the penetrative sex. No other activity is found to reinforce the sexual intimacy as foreplay does. It is the passionate and adventurous exploration of the highly sensitive, intimate, and erogenous zones. If foreplay is done will skill, concentration, and tonnes of affection, the result will be a great sexual experience!

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