Well, in my last article, I spoke about how you should let the woman do the talking for the first one month of your dating her. I also told you that women love talking and so the best way to impress her is to let her open her Pandora’s Box and talk to you, to her heart’s content. You must be wondering that when will you do the talking if you invest all the gracious time in listening to her?
Here’s your answer!
The biggest advantage you are getting out of letting the girl talking initially is you’ll get to know most about her in the first few weeks of dating her itself. By letting her talk you’re discovering which category she belongs to. Whether she is one-night stand types, just dating material or possibly someone more serious. Also as a person who doesn’t want to create any unnecessary mess in his life, you should not before hand whether that girl is worth you or not.

Sooner or later, you will have to certainly open up but in this first month, you can focus on discovering whether she is worth of your attention or not. All you need to do is be confident and playful on your dates and try giving as much little information as you can about yourself as possible. Be smart and witty in answering questions she pops out for you every now and then and switch the conversation back to her within no time. Women often tend to miss this stuff so you can be assured in here.

There lies one more reason in talking less in the beginning. Women love mysterious men. If you have an air of curiosity surrounding you all the time, women will feel intrigued to know more and more about you and this will keep her at her toes all the time. Creating a balance is important. Don’t ruin it for her by letting her know every single detail about your proudest achievements within the first 10 minutes of your meeting her. Even if you don’t have anything to be proud of she doesn’t know that! She’ll daydream and fantasize about how mysterious you are.

Ideally even a long term girlfriend or wife should be discovering new things about you for years to come!

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

Dating more than one woman at a time is not new to some among us. When men do that, it gives them confidence and boosts their ego by thinking that they own the skill that very few possess. Some men can’t do away with just a single female in their life and here you are – dating various personality types at your own ease. But where does all this lead you? Well, let’s find out!

Most men think that dating several women keeps them away from acting clingy and desperate. But a sad thing here that men exercise is that they think that dating means they can also sleep with all their women. Let me tell you guys, you are going into a deep pothole if you keep going about sleeping with women like that. Having many physical relationships with several women is not fair to them and is extremely risky for you too. It’s not unheard of for women to go off birth control without telling their boyfriends.

If you think that possessing the skill to lure a new woman in bed every night makes you a real man, you need to throttle your grey cells a bit. You are absolutely wrong if you think so. In fact you are simply whiling away your precious energies by sharing yourself with so many females at a time. This is you will be engaged in impressing every girl by doing what she prefers the most and lose your own originality or let me say sanctity as a person.

For those you are unknown to al of this, let me tell you that nothing beats having a single partner that can challenge you, match your mental wavelength and impress you with her integrity, confidence, grace and solidarity. When you truly develop a bond based on mutual respect with the woman you are extremely attracted to, the feeling s much more gratifying than indulging with 5 other women at the same time and losing your real self.

So the lesson to be learnt is dump your ego and look for relationships with women that are your equals. This will make you happier in the long run and you’ll live a life free of guilt and self-reproach.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

I decided to write on this because after seeing the way how men and let me say even ‘intelligent’ men go about ending their relationships; it saddened me to the core! Let me explain this to you by narrating a real-life incidence.
There was this acquaintance I knew who wanted to break up with his six-month old girlfriend. So without giving her any clue, he first stopped calling her without any reason. This brought her to immediately think that some thing had gone wrong between them. But when she called him to find out he spoke to her as if nothing was wrong and they chatted just like they would any other day. So she finally assumed that he had only been busy.

From then on, whenever she wanted to meet her, she has to literally push through his excuses. Only then would they meet. There certainly was a streak of reluctance in him which did come into her eye but since he was right there with him, she dropped the thinking that perhaps he was either tired, stress out or pre-occupied due to something. The end of the date would seem normal and so no clues could be dug from their meeting as well.

What’s disturbing is after a night of drinking he would call her for a late night booty call. As I always say that women are very sharp when it comes to gauging the integrity of a man, by now she had started questioning the merits of being in the relationship but then women are emotional creatures. Since he did make love to her still, she thought that he still loves her after all.

What women fail to understand is that men can easily have physical relationship with many women without having any true feelings for any of them.

So this is the flux that most men put women into without thinking about the extent to which anxieties can swell up in a woman’s mind. If you relate with what I’ve said in this article, then keep a track of my next article which will line ways about how can you call off your relationship with utmost kindness and genuineness. Until then, keep reading and be good!

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

Nature has its own beautiful ways of binding a woman and a man. There are some qualities bestowed on women alone that compliment those of her male counterpart and vice versa. One such thing is the way a woman enters a man’s life and fills it with warmth and compassion unbound. But in order to have your lady do so you have to make sure that she is enough attracted to you to start considering herself as an essential part of your life. If she is feels uncomfortable or uneasy in your presence or the surroundings you keep her in, her interest will drop and she’ll be gone before you dream of having a future with her. So here are some tips that’ll tell you how to make your woman feel comfortable in your space. Here we go!

Choose a nice place to live in!
Having a nice, warm place to live in is one of the first things you need to do. Nice does not mean you go out of budget in finding your self an expensive apartment. It should be a warm place to be in. All I am trying to say is that don’t hurry in fixing any place just because you need an accommodation. Even if it takes a few months for you to find a decent place, it is absolutely okay. So long as you do find a pleasant space, investing time in doing so is perfectly fine. If you have friends who are great at finding bargains, you know exactly whom to approach.

Cleanliness is the key!
Girls are extremely wary of untidy and messy apartments. The first impression you give to a lady regarding the space you live in, must be good if at all you intend to be in her good books. If you want your relationship to reach new heights, make sure your bay is as clean and spotless before you get her to your place.

Personalize your room!
Keeping the place clean isn’t everything until your room speaks about the kind of person you are. Remember your place is a great way of letting your lady know all about you. This is so because your life style speaks a lot about the kind of individual you are. Also you should let things around you do the talking for yourself rather than you being a blabber mouth. A nice presentable room with things in place will impress your lady in many ways than you’ll ever know.

These are some of the many things to be taken care of if you really want your lady to be attracted to you and hold your hand as your partner in life. Well, the onus of turning your house into a home goes to her but to have her consider you capable enough is your call. In my forthcoming articles, I’ll be coming up with more such tips so keep your self glued and happy reading!

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

I know how much some of us really look forward to flirting with women but this again is an art which men ought to know. So read on to know some tricks of the trade that’ll help you sail smoothly.
The first step towards flirting is having a flirty tone. Prolonging your vowels and slowing down on certain words is the key to it. When we say ‘flirting’, we mean we are not serious and that’s what is important to convey while you are in the act. Make it very clear that you are not being serious and the best way to do that is by doing it with your tone.
Using sexual innuendos here and there in a tasteful manner is another way you can establish a fine rapport with your partner. But always remember that try doing this only after you already have a certain amount of rapport with the lady. Some women do not easily approve of this even if they have developed a fine rapport with men, so the moment she gives you a weird look, stop it right that moment.

Now this may call for being a bit physical. Don’t forget to hug her if a moment arises. Women love to be hugged and such moments help you bind closely with your lady – in an informal sort of way I mean.

Prolonging your eye contact is yet another trick towards extending the fun of flirting. Look in her eyes a bit too long. Let the tension build and don’t look away until she does. This is one of the most exciting aspects of flirting. A little bit of physical rapport in a naughty way adds greatly to the intensity building up inside both individuals.

So next time you find a lady gelling well with you and flirting seems the best way to go, keep these things in mind and you’ll never have to look back for any lacunae. Be confident in everything you do. That’s the key to impressing the girl more than anything else!

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

When the thought of a make out session is hijacked by your impending work deadlines, serious damage control is in order.
At times you might have had a terrible day at work, long hours of meetings, and your phone continuously ringing. All you can think of is your comfortable bed with no, not your partner, but some pillows for company. If such is the case you are not alone in the race. Job pressure, big city blues, overall lack of time leads to lack of intimacy in the bedroom. In other words, your interest to intimate fades out with time. You start considering it as a work and stop enjoying even the thought of intimating. The main culprit is nothing but fatigue-both physical and mental.

Here are a few tips that will help you overcome your problem:

• If you are too tired to do it at night try morning sex.Its the time when you are well rested. If low energy is the problem try and work out more.

• You can try mood enhancers such as aromatherapy, sexy scents or sexy thoughts, play yours and your partner’s favorite music.

• Don’t treat sex as a job that you have to get over with as fast as possible. Give time to lovemaking. Try and be romantic.

• If there is no time plan some exclusive time for lovemaking. And try and make that time the most memorable one which you can cherish for times to come.

• Since your relationship is some years old now don’t take each other for granted. If you do so there would be no charm left in your relationship.

• If you want to relax your self when you back from office meditate and shed all stress and anxiety and then think of lovemaking.

• Good sex will energize you emotionally and the adrenaline rush can result in high energy levels.

Sex life should be important for you. You have to prioritize and make the effort to create the ambience or schedule time for it.Sex is said to be the glue that holds couples together and also remember that will be the first one to wear out when you are busy with work or over stressed in life. Sexual frustration can precipitate a downward spiral and pull you down helplessly .It also prevents you from being able to reduce your stress. No sex leads to even less sex.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

Well, I don’t mean to intimidate you by saying this but this is true to the core. How many times have you really wanted to ask her out, kiss her, hold her hand but only found yourself staring at her, dumbstruck, not knowing what to do? I’m sure many a times. We want to do it but we get nervous. Moreover, she doesn’t seem to help either. Alright let me tell you that she won’t. Even if she wants to. Let’s know why.
You must be thinking as to why am I saying that women are 10 times smarter than we are. Well, that’s because they know what we are thinking. Women are very sharp when it comes to reading body language knowing hat exactly what you intend to do and how. Yes, if you are out on a date with your lady and want to kiss her, she probably knows it. Don’t be surprised as she will not show it to you. Women, whether outgoing or docile always prefer their men to take the lead. Moreover, they admire men who know how to handle her. So my point is, sitting there and getting nervous won’t really help.

This is a very important aspect of dating women and is applicable to everything, right from getting her number to asking her out and even getting physical. You ought to know what to do in each situation and how or else you may soon find yourself empty handed. It is all about being confident and going step by step to get her closer to you. Asking her to get physical with you in the very first date is the worst thing you can do to annoy her. Well yes, this can be most petrifying for the girl. Never and I mean never do that.

The more you communicate with her, the more you’ll know what kind of person she is. If she shares the same sense of humor as yours, you won’t have to put in much effort asking her out for a date or even holding her hand when together. Be as gentle as you can be. Touch speaks a lot. A woman can easily know your intension of touching her so do so only when your heart tells you to. Look into her eyes and smile. The point is to make her feel comfortable in your presence. To let her know that you like her for what she is. And that you care for her. Being subtle is the best way to woo a girl. Never be too gross with her. Not until both of you have spent a considerable amount of time together and are sure that she knows you well enough.

So before you start off, be confident of what you are stepping in, know your girl well and be just hit the dart without any inhibitions.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

“Opposites attract each other”- an age old adage but holds true in the ever evolving relationship between man and woman. This situation of opposites attracting each other can transpire on many levels: spender vs. saver, risk-taker vs. non-risk-taker, or, as is the case in many relationships, extrovert vs. introvert.
Where on one hand an extrovert tends to be more outgoing and loves social activities, an introvert on the other hand tends to be quiet and self-reflective. Extroverts and introverts who are at the opposite ends of the realm may find themselves attracted to one another because their personalities balance one another out.

So the big question here is whether such a relationship can stand the test of time. Yes it can definitely work, provided the couple is fundamentally compatible. The foundation of any sound relationship is the basic level of understanding between the spouses. If the couple shows respect for each other and discuss these differences, they can actually come out stronger in the end.

HOW TO MAKE THIS RELATIONSHIP WORK?

• Communicate honestly, frankly and openly. The first step to make your relationship work is to discuss your feelings openly. Rather than just telling your spouse that you won’t go out, clarify that you’d rather stay home because you’re exhausted and NOT because you don’t want to be with him or her.

• Be sympathetic and understanding. For a change, think from your partner’s perspective. Try to understand him by putting yourself in his/her shoes. If you preferred staying home the way he or she does, how would you feel if your partner would insist on going out everyday?

• Express your feelings. Tell your spouse what you love about him or her. Look beyond your differences and think of all the good times you have spent together by constantly reminding each other why you fell in love.
• Look for equilibrium. It is essential to strike a balance in any relationship and more so here where the personality traits are poles apart. If you’re the one who always initiates and dominates the conversation, take a breather and let your partner speak up for a change.

• Sacrifice your wishes sometimes. Is it fair to never give in to your partner’s requests to stay home or go out? Sometimes, it’s essential to give in to your partner’s idea, and you’ll in all probability find that the favor is gladly and willingly returned.

• Build common interests. Take out some time to reflect and find out new interests that you can share and enjoy, whether it’s watching movies, listening to music or taking strolls together.

Remember, making any relationship work is in your own hands. It depends on how much committed you are to make it successful and everlasting in spite of having clashing personalities.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

First dates are usually a great way to gauge the all important 3 C’s – chemistry, compatibility and communication. After all what matters at the end of the day is the quality and the strength of the relationship that you intend building.
Sound foundation of any relationship should not be based entirely on passion between two people though it may be an important ingredient.

On first dates, it is more important to concentrate on having a good time than to worry about the kiss. The key to a great and successful first date is the comfort that you enjoy with your partner. Spending your entire date thinking and agonizing about kissing on first date may act as a deterrent in you enjoying the evening and getting to know him.

A kiss on the cheek is a common greeting. And so is the “goodnight kiss”. It is entirely your prerogative where you want to end your date– in bed with him or in bed but alone!!

It may be hard to know where your relationship might lead to on the first date. No matter how much you think that it is the ideal case of love at first sight there may be a chance of things not going your way. For all you know the guy might have stinking breath!!!

Most guys expect a lip lock which they would like to end in their beds. However, not everyone is a fan of kissing on their first date. Here are a few suggestions on how you can avoid kissing on the first date.

Your right to say no: First you need to realize that it is completely within your right to say no to being kissed on the first date.

No mixed signals: While out on your date be sure in your mind about what you want. Don’t give him signals that are confusing and might be interpreted in such a manner that is contrary to what you want—no kiss!

Set the rules: You can set the rules at the beginning of the date through your behavior and body language and be consistent the whole time. Don’t flirt with him and or look him in the eyes for too long.

Wear a dark coloured lipstick: In fact, I suggest you wear red lipstick on your first date because guys won’t attempt to kiss you with it on!!!

Remember in order to experience a truly breathtaking first kiss you must do it with someone you really care about. Someone who makes your heart beat faster and your pulse race. Otherwise it’s just another kiss that is unexciting and dull. So do not kiss someone just to say you’ve been kissed. Kiss someone who really means something to you.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook    Google Bookmarks    Stumble It    Technorati    Yahoo! My Web  
Hide Sites

Human relationships are both complex and fragile at the same time. Sometimes, after seeing each other exclusively for a while, they talk about the possibility of co-habiting or living together before marriage. Wherever we go these days we hear the concept of live-in relationships, which is basically two people living together before marriage. . Most of the people going in for a live-in relationship are those who are afraid of committing and who don’t want the responsibilities that come along with being committed.

Many people imagine that living together before marriage resembles taking a car for a test drive. The “trial period” gives people a chance to discover whether they are compatible. In other words, they stay together to check their compatibility quotient. Few even live together because most of their friends are in live-in relationships and they don’t want to be considered the odd ones out.

Couples move in together mainly because they are in love and they want to spend more time together.

The trend of live-in relationships has not really caught on in India, especially in the middle and upper middle classes, where marriage is still very much the norm. But live-in relationships do occur among the upper class as an alternative lifestyle.

The consequence of a live in relationship, if one walks out is not very pleasant. Generally, the Indian society considers such a relationship a sin. However, with changing lifestyles nobody bothers to intrude in one’s life.

You should not to get into a live-in relationship with a person you do not know, or just for the sake of sharing accommodation costs.

If a couple decides to have a live-in relationship instead of marriage for convenience, it should be fine. In today’s world people have different views about life. Few may be quite comfortable with a live-in relationship others may not be. Some people may find it more comfortable to have a relationship without the sanctity of marriage. In other words, a carefree life without being committed.However, it’s a personal choice .People who believe in staying together prior to marriage may prefer a live-in relationship and vice-versa.

In most cases, the parents of the couple are not aware of this kind of a relationship. That is because, though such relations are acceptable to the youth, it is still far from being accepted among the older generation, which continues to believe in the institution of marriage.

Live-in relations have almost become the need of the hour and it is not bad or immoral but what one needs to understand its fine lines and complexities.

Bookmark It

 Del.icio.us    digg  
 Facebook