For every relationship to thrive and flourish it has to be continuously nurtured with love and commitment. Most people tend to take their relationship for granted. As a result they feel the brunt of it in form of the relationship getting disintegrated. They forget that they have to work on a relationship– every day.
Following these 4 steps will help to keep your relationship healthy and thriving
1. Communicate: The most important thing is to start communicating with each other. Good and effective communication will cultivate healthier relationship that will last long term. If there is lack of honest communication it indicates need of trust or insecurity. And either is damaging to a relationship. To be honest with each other ensures that there is freedom to express your views that your partner may not be comfortable with. Remember that listening or talking does not impose conformity. It is merely a privilege of being in a strong relationship that provides you the liberty to share your inner most thoughts.

2. Show your love: Even if your relationship is decades old it is imperative that you demonstrate your love that is perceived and appreciated by your partner. Sometimes just to feel in love may not be enough in a relationship. You can show your love in various ways. Some may like to give or receive gifts or favors; for others it may be physical touch or sex; and for others doing activities together. Love must always be given in a way that it can be received. This will ensure that your relationship is thriving.

3. Trust your partner: Trust has to be the core of a sound relationship. Lack of trust leads to insecurity and jealousy—two of the main destroying forces in a relationship. Trust, unlike love, is not given but is earned. You can earn your partner’s trust by following through on your commitments and consistently being true to your relationship.

4. Learn to forgive: Another key to giving your relationship a sound foundation is to learn to forgive. No one is perfect. Your partner is going to make mistakes and so are you. When you absolve your partner you have taken a vast step forward. You nay not know but next time it might be your turn to seek forgiveness. So forgive your spouse the way you would want her to forgive you.

Being in love can help you kick start your relationship but it alone cannot sustain it nor can it thrive. Working together by giving it time and nurturing it with constant devotion will do wonders to the relationship and make it florish.

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So we have been talking about how intelligent men actually fail to lure attractive women. The catch is instead taken away by men less smarter, less canny and even less dapper. If you think I am talking paradox, you are very right. We are to talk about one of the most common situations faced by intelligent men and answer their plea.
Alright let’s come to the reasons now. In the last article I emphasized on how smart men are most of the time right and how this perception starts acting against them. In other words, many smart guys refuse to accept that a good, solid, workable answer could come from someone “dumber” than them, so they discount any idea that comes from an “obviously less intelligent person” before trying it.

Let me explain you with an example:
If you were going to be walking across Africa on foot, would you rather have your guide be the guy with the highest I.Q., or a caveman who lived a million years ago that had an I.Q. of about 50 but who grew up being chased by lions and all kinds of animals that wanted to eat him all his life? The point is If you’d like to learn how to be more successful with women and dating, would you take advice from a guy who isn’t very intelligent, but who knows how to attract women?

Taming the perception of being readily available with solution leaves these guys unwilling to accept input, ideas, or instruction from anyone who isn’t either as smart or smarter than them. So please stop being arrogant and making this mistake again and again. It is absolutely okay to learn about the tricks of the trade from your so called ‘lesser mortals’ because they are afterall more adept in doing something that you are not. Please adapt yourself towards having an open mind. You are only choosing to close your eyes at this moment. Wake up! Look around, Learn from some “dumb” guys… and let them teach you how to get what you REALLY want.

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You are suave, sharp and intelligent. Yet you have set this unusual record of women failing to get attracted towards you. It pains you to see how even not so smart, rather men with average looks and almost no wit, happen to lure even the most beautiful and attractive women around. Well, this is truly one of the most amazing situations that I myself have come across but fortunately I do have advice for that’ll help you know what to do about it and how!

Let us talk in depth over it. I don’t mind running into two or even three articles for doing so. Hope you benefit the same from it as many others, I have advised upon it have.

Okay I’m sure you’ll not have to think hard (read at all) to know that you are an above average guy; that right from the time you were a child, you saw things differently, act in ways that were smarter than the others and understood certain complexities faster than others did. And say needless to say that your smart thinking has certainly benefited you in many areas of your life.

And more often than not, you know that you are usually right in most situations. Smart people get used to being “right”, because they usually ARE right. And this helps them to get ahead of many others in many situations. But unfortunately, this smart mind of yours can actually be worse than useless when it comes to a key area of life - WOMEN AND DATING! Don’t be surprised, I did say worse than useless! Alright now let me tell you how being smart can actually destroy your suave self.

Well the first thing is men, whether smart or intelligent are humans after all. They can make mistakes but unfortunately what plays against them in these cases is their ego. Such men always think that they not only think right, they’re also able to find logic in everything they say and do. When something unlike happens while talking to their women, women soon realize that they are just not ready to admit their fault. It is not about bowing down, but only being grounded enough to accept that yes, they can also be wrong at times. Women may not point out this thing while stopping to talk to he guy but this is one of the most obvious reasons of them not wanting to continue with these guys.

It only takes “failing” with a few women in a row for a smart guy to see the pattern… and realize that something isn’t working. A smart guy just assumes that his logic must be good so he tries to think harder for a solution. But when no success comes, it really starts to become mentally difficult.

So we see how one‘s own positives can destroy one’s own prospects in one of the most essential aspects of life. If you have been a victim, please focus on what has just been said and start working towards it.

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Do you recall the last time you shared a romantic moment with your spouse? When was it that his kiss turned you to jelly? Has his embraces turned your world up side down in the recent past?
The answers to these questions can very well decide how romantic your relationship is. We all agree that all healthy and successful relationships are, and must be based upon a strong romantic foundation. If there is no real foundation in a relationship, then it is based upon superficial circumstances that eventually chip away and cease as a meaningless and empty romance.
Here are a few tips that will re introduce romance in your dull and boring life.

Break the shackles of monotony.
Many people associate the beginning of a relationship with romance and excitement because everything is new. But after the relationship is authenticated we settle into a routine, and nothing feels new anymore. To be romantic and to reintroduce the excitement that was typical of the relationship when it was budding, do something different, something that your partner wouldn’t expect.

Greet each other with a kiss.
Grab your partner and give him or her passionate kiss every opportunity you get. This physical show of your love will go a long way in reinforcing the romance in your life.

Write love letters to one another.
Conceal little love notes around the house in shoes, wallet or purse, car, favorite coffee mug, or coat pocket. A note pasted to the bathroom mirror with the words, “You are my morning sunshine” or a sexy message expressing what you’d like to do to your spouse when you get home from work are not only romantic but also always cherished. They help the spouse feel loved, and they instigate anticipation of your return.

Give a surprise to your spouse.
Gifts, such as flowers, balloons or theater tickets show your spouse that you do these sorts of things simply because you’re thinking of him or her and not out of compulsion. However, this is in addition to the birthday and/or anniversary card.

Romantic relationships don’t build at a whim. You need to nurture it with love and tender moments. Practice romance every day. To tell you the truth, sometimes the most romantic moments are simple, spontaneous and free. There are millions of methods to say “I love you” and express it in boundless ways. Make it a point to find a new ways and means to be romantic every day.

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Have you ever thought how special that first kiss can be? Especially when it is with the person that is so very special to you? A passionate first kiss can help your relationship to take a leap from boundary of just being friends to the sublime zone of love.
But to successfully cross these parameters, it is imperative that you do it right. One wrong step and you may wonder what hit you. Here are a few tips that will help you not only to muster up the courage to kiss your girlfriend but also ensure that you pass the first crucial test of exploring the chemistry between you without the feeling of awkwardness.

1. GET RID OF BAD BREATH-The first and foremost thing to keep in mind is that you should have fresh breath. And this goes for all the occasions- be it kissing or talking. You want her to be attracted by you not only while kissing but also when you are conversing. So keep away from garlic and onion and moisten your mouth because dryer mouth has the worse of breath. Remember to bring a pack of gum or mints in your back pocket or drink something to have a sexy breath that beckons her.

2. FIND THE RIGHT PLACE- To make the first kiss impressive and unforgettable, you have to take her to a secluded place, away from the prying eyes. It will relieve the tension of being in the full view of others who may be judging your performance. Also, your lady love may not feel comfortable with the audience around. By being alone with her there will be more room to create romantic tension and land the kiss on her while making that first kiss all the more memorable.

3. LOOK FOR THE RIGHT MOMENT-After you have found the right place look for the right moment. Pick a moment where it feels right to kiss her. It should not feel forced and make it feel like it was unexpected. Instead it should be spontaneous.  This is crucial because you don’t want to randomly kiss her and spoil the whole show. Her body language and behavior will help you decide the right moment for the chemistry to work between you.

4. GO FOR IT- Now that you have reached the position where things have moved from just ‘friendly conversation’ to the point where there is heaps of sexual tension between you and your girl, land the kiss on her lips. Ensure that your lips are lightly pressed on her lips. If she gives you the signal that she wants to carry on (she might slightly open her mouth) go with the flow and you can mingle your tongue with hers. Don’t thrust it, just do it enough where you can feel the tip of her tongue and play with it a little.

Remember, the sure shot formula to get that first kiss right without feeling of any awkwardness is to have loads of confidence.

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Consider this scenario- You have at last met the girl of your dreams, your sole mate. Not only that, you have gone through the whole rigmarole of the dating process and have come out with flying colours.  So the next obvious step according to you is marriage. But she doesn’t seem to be ready for it!!!

Marriage is on your mind but the thought has not stuck your girlfriend.  Though marriage is your idea, no amount of begging or pleading can force her to walk down the isle.
So do you negotiate marriage with a woman even if she is not ready for it?

Not necessarily.

Are you living with your girl friend? Because if that is the case and you are in a live-in relationship with her, it can become a big deterrent. It will pose a threat in taking the relationship to the next level-marriage.

So the best thing for you is to stop living with your girlfriend. You deserve more than hoping that this arrangement of living together is one step towards becoming the husband you crave to be. Believe me it is no substitute for the real thing.

So why is that your girlfriends can’t seem to like the idea of marriage? Especially when you have been living together and giving her everything that goes with the marriage?

It seems as if you have not been able to make any impact on her when you decided to live with her. When I say “impact” I mean that you have already prepared an environment where she gets all the perks and privileges of a wife sans the emotional and legal binding. The fact of the matter is that she has not fully understood the difference between you being the live-in boyfriend and being her husband.

Actually, her brain is thanking you for it because deep inside of her, she knows that with the little bit of freedom she still has, she’s still has the choice to take her own sweet time and decide on the next step. You are in no way threatening her safe haven that she has created for herself. It is not only delusional for her but also for you.

Don’t shower her with everything, nor give her too much love - NO!

Instead give a little bit at a time in order to test her to see whether she’s a real woman who can stay in your heart and home. That’s when she’ll get the opportunity to decide whether you ‘re really her Prince Charming.

And if she does, she will be waiting with baited breath for you to pop up the “question” soon!!!

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Most of the guys fall into the same category. They often feel too comfortable and tend to fool around after being in a relationship for quite some time. They find it easy to forget the morning kisses, the flowers, the romantic walks, and even the excitement of having nights of fiery passion. And most guys find nothing wrong with this. However, if you want to keep the fire and passion in your relationship burning, here are some tips.

Showering Her with Compliments
Every woman wants appreciation for her beauty. Every woman maintains herself to the her abilities to look good and beautiful for you and so she may expect your compliments. The moment she walks in front of you, take a few moments to look at her and admire the way she looks. Just complement her beauty. The way she looks in her dress. Try to express your likeness for the perfume she is wearing. Never make her feel that your concern for her is just under the sheets. Women can usually sense if her guy is pulling her leg.

Giving Her Hello and Goodbye Kisses
It is a fact that all men love kissing their wives, partner or girlfriend. It is a common trend that the moment you step inside your house after a day’s work, the first thing you do is probably hit the couch or reach for the remote. But if you want to make your woman feel special, always give her a quick kiss on the lips. In this way you are letting her know that she is the number one person in your life. It also pays to give her a goodbye kiss when you are leaving the house. Experts say that women expect display of affection on a regular basis. The act of kissing your girlfriend or wife every time you come and go is a sure way to keep both of you going.

Let your love do the talking!
Once a woman dedicates herself in a relationship, she becomes all yours. That you have one person who thinks of you as a essential part of her indeed comes as a beautiful feeling. These are times when you should let your love do the talking. Little gestures like holding her hand while talking, looking into her eye and holding her when she is expecting it the least are acts that develop little moments of compassion between the two and bring in lots of security to the bond. Always remember that physical beauty is only skin deep. If your beloved has a beautiful heart, you’ll still find her to be the most beautiful person on earth. Just let her know this and you’ll see what wonders it can a single things like this create.

Surprise her once a while!
Try to give her pleasant surprises once in a while. Sending flowers when she is feeling blue, giving her gifts just to show you care, cooking her breakfast while she is still in bed, and even just slipping notes in her bag or coat will help in making her feel that you care for her. These little gestures will keep her on her toes and assure her that she is in your thoughts always.

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The dating scene has crossed over to the internet, and unless you’ve been living under a rock for the past few years, you should know that it’s one of the hottest things around. Online dating has catered to all niches, from singles to teens, straights to bis, lesbians, and gays.
Online dating websites sport different features for interaction and matchmaking, but all have the same purpose: to match you with your ideal mate. Though the internet may be a relatively safe place to meet guys, keeping a clear head and observing proper etiquette is the rule, especially in a setting as ambiguous as the web.

As is with every mate search, finding the ideal guy for you takes time. You may be overwhelmed by the numerous online buzzes you receive as you browse a site, so much so that you’ll find it easier to flirt around than to focus on a particular hopeful.

Suppress the urge to go on dating spree and find one person who has the potential of being the one. Browse his profile, and match yours with his. If your profiles click, it’s time to drop the quick hint.

Most sites offer you the opportunity to send a quick, discreet message to a member, showing him that you’re interested in a deeper acquaintance. If he picks up the hint, you’re all set for the next step: online chatting.

Online chat lets you get up close and personal with the guy you’re into, especially if you’re using an online cam. You can talk about anything under the sun, and find out if you and your newfound friend really go well together.

Keep in mind though that chatting is not very different from a real, face-to-face conversation: you have to be initially discreet so as not to put the other person off, all the while attempting to deepen the conversation as you get to know each other better. Don’t get too involved too soon.

Patience is the key to a meaningful relationship, and if you want the correspondence to lead to the next level, bide your time till the opportunity for an actual date seems the natural thing to do.

Setting the date is probably the icing on the cake, since you’ve gotten to know each other so much by now that it’s like a casual meeting with a friend. Do remember though that there is a possibility that he may not be the man you expect him to be. Put your safety first and take the necessary precautions.

Inform a close friend about the date, and set the meeting at an open and crowded place. Don’t let the person pick you up for the meeting, at least for the first date; and try not to let the first date go too far unless you are perfectly comfortable being with the person.

Relationships take time to develop, and if the first date goes well, let the guy know how the meeting was great for you, setting up the next date at a future time. If, unfortunately, you’re date goes bust, be polite enough to inform the other person that the match didn’t take off as expected, but you’re more than willing to give friendship a chance.

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