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Posts Tagged ‘Marriage’
Wed, October 8, 2008 6:37 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 Everyone has dreams about marriage. All of us dream to own better life with colours of joy and happiness. But inmost cases, we may have to bear the pain of sad ending. Never care, many face it as another challenge in life. But the unfortunate fact of life is it is easy to get married, but not so easy to get divorce. In most cases, people avoid opting for divorce especially if there are children involved. If a divorce is a must fop the life to go ahead, then there are several things you can do to help make the divorce process as smooth as possible.
1. Always try to make the process of divorce as short as possible. The longer it goes on the better it becomes a hard task. Always look for early settlements. Look out for a better divorce lawyer.
2. Try to establish your financial independence as soon as possible. Put an end to the use of joint bank accounts and set up your own personal account. Cancel the joint credit cards as soon as possible.
3. Always keep the children fully informed as to what’s happening. Never use to access to your children as a way to punish your husband. Make sure he too doesn’t do the same.
4. Keep a record of all correspondence as courts believe written correspondence more than hearsay.
5. Always have a private mail box for all mails. Store all personal things in that.
6. Always accept the fact that you need emotional support and use friends and family at this time. Try t get friends who could help at any time.
7. Make sure of an open line of communication between you and your husband. Try to get a mutual settlement if possible.
8. Never share your relation with husband to anyone other than lawyer. This will reflect well on you in court.
9. Keep calm at the time. Never loose curb over emotions.
Tags: Marriage, divorce, wife, Children, husband, Emotion, court, lawyer, relatives
Mon, July 28, 2008 6:10 am By James Coolridge
 Consider this scenario- You have at last met the girl of your dreams, your sole mate. Not only that, you have gone through the whole rigmarole of the dating process and have come out with flying colours. So the next obvious step according to you is marriage. But she doesn’t seem to be ready for it!!!
Marriage is on your mind but the thought has not stuck your girlfriend. Though marriage is your idea, no amount of begging or pleading can force her to walk down the isle.
So do you negotiate marriage with a woman even if she is not ready for it?
Not necessarily.
Are you living with your girl friend? Because if that is the case and you are in a live-in relationship with her, it can become a big deterrent. It will pose a threat in taking the relationship to the next level-marriage.
So the best thing for you is to stop living with your girlfriend. You deserve more than hoping that this arrangement of living together is one step towards becoming the husband you crave to be. Believe me it is no substitute for the real thing.
So why is that your girlfriends can’t seem to like the idea of marriage? Especially when you have been living together and giving her everything that goes with the marriage?
It seems as if you have not been able to make any impact on her when you decided to live with her. When I say “impact” I mean that you have already prepared an environment where she gets all the perks and privileges of a wife sans the emotional and legal binding. The fact of the matter is that she has not fully understood the difference between you being the live-in boyfriend and being her husband.
Actually, her brain is thanking you for it because deep inside of her, she knows that with the little bit of freedom she still has, she’s still has the choice to take her own sweet time and decide on the next step. You are in no way threatening her safe haven that she has created for herself. It is not only delusional for her but also for you.
Don’t shower her with everything, nor give her too much love - NO!
Instead give a little bit at a time in order to test her to see whether she’s a real woman who can stay in your heart and home. That’s when she’ll get the opportunity to decide whether you ‘re really her Prince Charming.
And if she does, she will be waiting with baited breath for you to pop up the “question” soon!!!
Tags: Dating, Girlfriend, Relationship, Marriage, men, husband, boyfriend
Wed, July 2, 2008 12:46 pm By James Coolridge
 Ok guys you have been married for an X number of years, but that absolutely does not mean that you should get into a rut. Move it man shake up your marriage and add a bit of spice into it.
Happy and healthy relationships take a lot of effort, but if you are truly committed to make your marriage/relationship work, a bit of creativity and effort on your part, romance can become a delicious element of your relationship.
Dress up for your wife/partner
Believe me tattered sweats, mid paunch and the unkempt look does not appeal to women, even your wife of X years finds it a turn of. Taking care of your clothes and your body, losing those extra pounds around your mid-section, will not only improve your health but will also increase your energy and sexual appeal (you will be startled at how willing your wife has suddenly become).
Touching
Physical touching (of the non-sexual type) is very important in creating a romantic mood. So be sure to add a few hugs, caresses and gentle kisses through the day. Hot sizzling sex does not happen if there is virtually no physical touch throughout the day and evening, it has to be cultivated. Offer to massage your partner with scented oils to add extra zing to your love life.
Communication
Yes this I know you have heard it many times, but it is true, communication is the ultimate way to romance. Make time during the day to call or text message your partner to let them know you are thinking about them. (and for heaven’s sake don’t use that time to complain about bills piling up or work problems) A naughty text message or note goes a long way in adding sizzle to a relationship.
Plan something unusual
Plan an activity that is unusual for both of you, it doesn’t have to be extravagant or expensive. Give her a spa treat or get a couples massage or take her for a walk at the beach at night, or simply buy her a gift for no reason. Doing something that she least expects will definitely up your romance quotient.
Spicy Sex
Sex is one of the most important factors of marriage but can become boring after a couple of years, keeping it exciting is crucial for a happy marriage. Try different things like role playing or sexy games like strip poker or strip scrabble. Also try sending the kids to grandma once a week so you can get a wild and loud.
Tags: Sex, Marriage, romance, relationships, spicy sex, touching, sexual appeal, massages
Mon, June 30, 2008 10:01 am By Roanlad Parrish
 Relationship lacking creativity and satisfaction generates contempt. The couples who are not satisfied of each other try to find ways to get rid of each other. Divorce becomes the verdict for such relationship. Why do divorce cases exist more than marriages? I would have to dedicate a single article to find out the reasons of increasing divorce cases. In this article, I would rather think in a different way- how to avoid a split? How to ensure that both of you are satisfied with each other and are well familiar with each other? Read on.
• Plan trips to come closer to your spouse: Take every activity as an opportunity to come closer to your spouse. Take her to your business trips. Plan frequent weekend getaways. Visit the places where both of you have never been to. Treasure hunts with your spouse like auctions, antique shops, garage sales, church rummage sales can help you come closer to each other.
• Plan with your spouse: Sit with your spouse at the beginning of each month and review your calendars. Plan your month’s appointments together. Your relationship commitments should never take a back seat. Hence, make all of your plans such that outings with your spouse are never delayed or missed.
• Go shopping with her: Exchanging gifts is always appreciated in a relationship. Go shopping together and find out something for her. She may also find something for you. Gift her favorite book or music CD. Have her to do the same for you. Apply the same concept to other specialty stores as well. Try to find out the “couples’s items” in the specialty stores. Matching bicycles, mobile phones, coffee mugs, rocking chairs can be really enjoyed together.
This way, you can save your marriage. Let divorce be the last resort, not the first one.
Tags: Love, Relationship, Marriage, divorce
Wed, June 18, 2008 12:01 pm By James Coolridge
 Wedding invitation card, venue, gown, wedding favours, photography are various items, which are taken into consideration while planning a wedding. However, the main element of a wedding is the theme. You should select a suitable theme for your wedding to make the big day of your life the most memorable one. Here are some more things to be kept in mind when you are planning your wedding.
The theme: Your wedding theme will depend on the date you choose. You should make sure that the wedding theme doesn’t contradict the season. It will be rare, rather awkward to plan a beach wedding during peak winter season. It also applies to a winter theme for your wedding during summer. Hence, choose a theme that gels with the season.
You can also create your wedding theme based on your cultural preferences. For instance, if you and your soul mate have a liking for the Asian culture, go for an Asian theme. Make sure that other wedding items also match the Asian idea.
The style: Your style statement also reflects on the ceremony. Your attitude on wedding will certainly affect your decision. It will be reflected in the tone of your wedding invitation. Formal or semi-formal- the choice is yours. If you want the big day of your life to be a strictly formal affair, it is better to wed in a Church. If it is the other way around, a semi-formal occasion, you may book a banquet or go for a beach wedding to set the casual mood.
The wedding style is different for different individuals. We have seen many couples who like to have a unique wedding plan for a special experience. So if you want to host a special event, put in some hard work to make your event even more special.
Tags: Marriage, wedding, nuptial, ties
Tue, June 17, 2008 10:34 am By James Coolridge
 Today, people are familiar with marriage as the Holy Sacrament of Matrimony. They see marriage as a union of two people who have agreed to live as one and start a family of their own. Marriage is another tenure to which people will be venturing out to a new phase of their lives and while many would find it challenging and exciting, it remains that marriage is more than these things.
For one thing, marriage is another stage of adjustment for both parties. It is entirely different to live in an age of independence where husband and wife have to make it on their own without the help of their parents. This is the ideal way towards married life but for some people, feeling that they cannot make it on their own without support from their families totally defeats the purpose.
We often hear of breakups and misunderstandings. These stem from the fact that they overlook the actual purpose of marriage and the real challenges that they bring. Even if people have known each other for most parts of their lives, all of these are due to change once married life is entered. You see each other everyday and notice the hidden habits which may or may not suit your liking. That is where the trouble starts.
Time management is another issue that normally behests marriages. With one or both working, the whole purpose of working is personal achievement and of course financial support for their daily needs. Many couples also want the attention and quality time from their partners. But given that their worlds will surely vary in the marital stage, these factors of time management are bound to be among the reasons why two people will have differences to settle.
There are plenty of things to consider before tying the knot. Most of them are ideal and easy to listen to. But the reality is that everything becomes entirely different when you are already there and on the verge of implementation. This is where that famous phrase becomes really useful; “Actions Speak Louder than Word”.
Tags: Love, Relationship, Marriage, trust., work, happiness, dedication
Mon, June 2, 2008 12:04 pm By James Coolridge
 Do you think that your wife has lost her libido? The extra energy, the spark of the fresh beginning relationship might be over now, isn’t it? If yes then you should discover the root cause rather than blaming your marriage for her declining sexual desire.
Daily routine and stressful life is to blame for her lack of libido. The more of a rut, the more stress is generated. As a result, your marriage becomes a drag. Ultimately, her sexual desire takes a nosedive.
On the contrary, husbands would like to have a little sex to release the stress. Hence, men’s sexual desire is released when they are stressed out while women’s sexual desire is withdrawn when they are stressed out. Puzzled, isn’t it? Even we are!
So how to get back her desire? Here is a one-word answer- cut her stresses levels and regain the libido! It may sound simple, but it is neither too difficult. Here is your guidance.
• Know more about your wife: Sounds extremely silly. Hey, you already know your wife, isn’t it? We are talking about the details. For instance, know what all are her favourites. To start with, get to know what all her favourite foods. Find out whether she takes her coffee, tea, her favourite recipe. Fetch her cup of tea made exactly the way she likes it; she will take note!
• Maintain the trust: Be trustworthy, dependable. Never lie. Don’t cheat. Be honest and let her trust you with her deep thoughts. Don’t blow up for silly things; keep your cool. Anger will foster fear of approach you. Let her come closer to you and want more of you.
• Make her feel special: This surely works! Hold hands, be sincere, and tell her she’s the prettiest woman in the world to you, leave her little love notes - do nice, thoughtful and sensible things for her.
• Beat the stress: Give her breaks and time to re-charge as to regain energy for more intimacy and thus, more passion!
Tags: Marriage, wife, Libido, dip, husband
Thu, May 22, 2008 11:56 am By James Coolridge
 Many men have often wondered what the true keys to a woman’s heart are. So many men have tried caressing the minds of women with gifts and loads of affection only to face heartbreak in times of crises. The aftermath of these is that most men term women to be highly unreliable, willing to do only the will of the highest bidder. While this may be true with a few women, for the vast majority of women nothing can be further from truth.
Why do men unconsciously feel that a woman can always be bought, if the price is appealing enough? Why do most men forever insinuate that they can always manipulate their way to the hearts of women? Male vanity, egocentricity, or may be old fashioned chauvinism. One thing’s for sure anyway, there exists only one door to a woman’s heart and only one key to that door. It’s nothing other than sensitivity.
Before you begin to ponder what sensitivity is, and what it’s not, go through the next sentence. Sensitivity is knowing what promotes pleasure and doing everything to ensure that it continues for as long as possible. That’s the first part. The second part is knowing what causes pain, anger, fear and other forms of negative emotions and doing everything to steer clear of such as much as possible.
There’s no need for so many translation, no need for Greek, Russian or Italian. Its there in one sentence. Simple and concise. But even in its simplicity, it has been the most misconstrued issue when it comes to sex, love and relationships.
What does sensitivity do to a woman? The number one most important thing sensitivity does to a woman, is that it opens her up. Most women would rather prefer to be loved and worshipped than experience multiple orgasms. Most women would gladly unleash their reserves of passion and affection if only they can be administered daily doses of genuine concern. Even in our fast paced, ego-driven world, the psycho-emotional needs of all humans, women inclusive have not substantially changed. Women want to be gently invaded. They want partners who would slowly, gradually and passionately seek them out. Only sensitive men can achieve this feat. While of course women do not always enjoy playing hard to get, persistence virtually guarantees you permanent results with most women.
Nowhere is sensitivity so crucial in a relationship like in the arena of sex. The female sexual psychology is so complex that only an extremely sensitive lover can always get the best out of every encounter. If there exists any shortcuts in the game of sex, sensitivity must be that route. Sensitivity enables passion to be built up more rapidly. It enables lovers to passionately understand what brings maximum pleasure as well as what constitute turn offs and no-go areas. Indeed most problems in relationships can be narrowed down to one cause: insensitivity. If only men could be more sensitive to their women, they would never need to patronise brothels and sex hawkers.
Sensitivity also heightens intimacy. If you can remember a woman’s birthday, you’ll be her best friend. If you can send her flowers and give her an ultra-romantic treat, she would gladly surrender herself to you. Many men after a short while find themselves estranged from their partners and wonder what happened. It didn’t happen overnight. Little drops of insensitivity slowly accumulated to form large raging oceans of doubt, fear, insecurity and resentment.
Tags: Love, Relationship, Marriage, home, sensitive
Fri, May 16, 2008 1:17 pm By James Coolridge
 Photographs keep millions of people buying digital cameras these days. There is something about a still shot taken that captures 1000 words. That one moment in time captured forever. That is the reason the wedding photography is so important. It is that moment in time that you will want to remember for the rest of your life. It is that one moment in time that you will want your future children and grand children and even great grand children to remember. It is important that it is the right shot that is remembered forever and that is why a wedding photographer is so important.
Photographs depict a mood or emotion. Even though it is captured in a millisecond, it represents the entire days events or some aspect of it. A wedding day is full of emotion. There will be parts of the day that are exciting, or parts of the day that will be full of serenity and solemnity. There will parts of the day that you will be smiling ear to ear and another part of the day that you will be full of tears. It is a heart filled day of love and celebration. It is a day of beginning, a day of new hope. Unity, oneness, a day of joining. Two families merge into one. A photographer must be able to capture all this in a millisecond snap shot. It is a skill and it takes somebody that understands the emotions of such a significant day.
There are a couple of ways a photographer will take snapshots. He may arrange poses or he may try to just capture the moment in a natural way. You can help. Be natural. Enjoy your partner and have fun with it. The best pictures is when you are showing true emotion. Poses can be fun. But during the ceremony it is all candid. You won’t be thinking about the photos during that time anyways.
Whatever the photographer’s style is he or she will adapt to you and your spouse’s personality. There isn’t one shot that works for everybody. It is your special day and it is unique in your own way. The pictures will be the same. This day is special because of the commitment you are making. It is the step into a new era. It is your own era, it is your own dynasty to be made. Nobody else is in control of it, but you and your spouse. The pictures will reflect what you make the day to be. So enjoy it!
Tags: Marriage, Photographs, cherish, preserve
Sat, May 10, 2008 1:10 pm By James Coolridge
 Lack of sexual intimacy is one of the painful causes for a marriage to fail. Women often get the blame for a sexless marriage but what about you who stop having sex with your spouse? What went wrong? Why is the passion for sex declining? Let’s find out. Here are some of the causes for marriages becoming sexless and ultimately, a disaster.
Don’t you find her physically attractive?
She may let herself go physically, usually by putting on lots of weight. This may be quite off-putting. You may still love her as a person but may no more find passion for her in bed. Lack of your desire can make it difficult to perform. Gaining weight, lack of working out or personal grooming, may lead to a decrease in sexual attraction and frequency of intercourse. The lovemaking will become unsatisfying for both of you and ultimately, the marriage will become sexless.
Does she treat you like dirt?
Is your wife too controlling and critical about you? Well, you will definitely not like constant criticism and if your wife is nagging you. I am sure men will not compromise with their self-esteem. This behavior may result in deep resentment and you may thus avoid sex with your wife in act of vengeance.
Is it a boring routine?
Love may be still there but if the thrill and excitement is gone, if you are fed up with the boring routine inside and outside the bedroom, the usual ways of lovemaking, then you may lack interest in having sex with your wife. Sexual excitement needs diversification. So, try to bring back the excitement.
I hope that you will find the way to fix your sexless marriage.
Tags: Marriage, spouse, attraction, boring routine
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