This statement seems absolutely paradoxical to the norm, I know. But the records say that men who are smart, intelligent and suave often fail to attract women that are at par with them. Well yes, this is very true. Our previous articles have been based on this only and we have been extensively talking about the reasons that cause these men towards failing this way.

Sad it is but true. Smart and intelligent men are often seen brooding over reasons that keep women away from them. Alright, one of them is poor social skills. Yes, this is strange but true. I have often found intelligent men too laid back when it comes to communicating with people in order to socialize and make a positive impression. These people are otherwise successful in work, extremely sharp in gauging the business trends but when it comes to reaching out to a women’s heart, I don’t know what happens to them. In fact, I believe that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don’t even have “social skills” and “be a cool guy that people like” in their “MENTAL MODEL” of what it could possibly take to be successful with women and dating.

Social communication is an art that needs to be mastered keeping in mind the likes and dislikes of a lady, the social courtesies, gestures, expressions and clothing too. It is all about wearing your attitude though. Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans… and if you don’t have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women. Remember you won’t ever get women by thinking about them, you’ll have to get up and get going. Learn the tricks of the trade and start acting, NOW!

Fine, let’s look at some more reasons:
You know I have seen a quality in smart guys that fascinates the hell out of me. They come up with all the reasons why everything won’t work when it comes to women and dating. They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and scenes and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions. What I mean to say is what is the need to think negative even before trying to date a woman? That sounds certainly silly. Because smart guys don’t understand women, and they don’t understand what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They’re wrong before they even start figuring!

My point is you must try to overcome this habit if you have it. Thinking negative before you have even tried to talk to a girl, just makes no sense.

Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you see a woman on the street and are hit with the desire of asking her out? I’m sure you must have. There are times when you see someone really beautiful or attractive passing you by on the street and you feel to an immediate need to talk to her, to know her more. But most often than not, you just let go such opportunities because you are not able to gather the confidence and go up to her or just fall short of words, not knowing what to say and how to say. There are a hundred things that may run into your mind then. How would she react? What will she think about you? Will she shout on you or get annoyed, making a public scene out of it. You just don’t know. Well, the good news is finally in. I have brought for you some tips that will help you handle these situations better.

Okay, let me put it in the form of an anecdote for you. This will help you understand better and make the situation more practical to be able to relate to. Take it as if it has been my own personal experience though there have not been once but many a times when I have approached attractive girls on the street and my tricks worked on them like a charm.

Alright, here I go!
I saw this beautiful girl on the street that almost looked like a model, very attractive with a sparkle in her eye. I approached her and said hi and she also in the same breeze said the same as if she is trying to only brush past me. And just before the moment could get over, I said, “Why? My good looks really scare you that badly? “(I knew I was just average looking). This stopped her in her tracks and she actually came back and was like “What did you say “I repeated, “Did my good looks really scare you away?”. What followed next told me that the nut had already been cracked. She smiled. She was like “I guess that was it, do you want to grab a table and talk a bit?”

The next 20 minutes were absolute bliss. We talked but then exactly after these 20 minutes, I looked at my watch and told her that I had to get going. She said “But we just started”.. Then I asked her about her e-mail address to which she said that we doesn’t have one. Then I told her that if she would give me her number, I would call her three times everyday. Well, it certainly intended to do what I saw on her lips. Her smile. She laughed and gave it to me and I said will I be able to get a hold of you on this number? She said yes and even showed me her cell phone number. So with this I rushed, leaving her speechless.

So we see that it is after all not that tough a thing to do if you develop the gift of the gab and know what to say at the right moment. Remember humor is a very important part of this game so keep yourself brushed with wit at all times. Nothing works better than that on girls!