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Fri, August 22, 2008 8:13 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 This statement seems absolutely paradoxical to the norm, I know. But the records say that men who are smart, intelligent and suave often fail to attract women that are at par with them. Well yes, this is very true. Our previous articles have been based on this only and we have been extensively talking about the reasons that cause these men towards failing this way.
Sad it is but true. Smart and intelligent men are often seen brooding over reasons that keep women away from them. Alright, one of them is poor social skills. Yes, this is strange but true. I have often found intelligent men too laid back when it comes to communicating with people in order to socialize and make a positive impression. These people are otherwise successful in work, extremely sharp in gauging the business trends but when it comes to reaching out to a women’s heart, I don’t know what happens to them. In fact, I believe that there are a lot of smart guys running around this planet who don’t even have “social skills” and “be a cool guy that people like” in their “MENTAL MODEL” of what it could possibly take to be successful with women and dating.
Social communication is an art that needs to be mastered keeping in mind the likes and dislikes of a lady, the social courtesies, gestures, expressions and clothing too. It is all about wearing your attitude though. Excellent social skills are the foundation for good communication with other humans… and if you don’t have good social skills, you dramatically lower your chances for success with women. Remember you won’t ever get women by thinking about them, you’ll have to get up and get going. Learn the tricks of the trade and start acting, NOW!
Fine, let’s look at some more reasons:
You know I have seen a quality in smart guys that fascinates the hell out of me. They come up with all the reasons why everything won’t work when it comes to women and dating. They use their amazing creative imaginations to imagine all kinds of horrible pictures and scenes and then they use those imaginary outcomes to create negative emotions. What I mean to say is what is the need to think negative even before trying to date a woman? That sounds certainly silly. Because smart guys don’t understand women, and they don’t understand what it takes to be successful with women, they are working with bad figures. They’re wrong before they even start figuring!
My point is you must try to overcome this habit if you have it. Thinking negative before you have even tried to talk to a girl, just makes no sense.
Tags: girl, Women, intelligent
Mon, August 18, 2008 10:55 am By James Coolridge
 Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you see a woman on the street and are hit with the desire of asking her out? I’m sure you must have. There are times when you see someone really beautiful or attractive passing you by on the street and you feel to an immediate need to talk to her, to know her more. But most often than not, you just let go such opportunities because you are not able to gather the confidence and go up to her or just fall short of words, not knowing what to say and how to say. There are a hundred things that may run into your mind then. How would she react? What will she think about you? Will she shout on you or get annoyed, making a public scene out of it. You just don’t know. Well, the good news is finally in. I have brought for you some tips that will help you handle these situations better.
Okay, let me put it in the form of an anecdote for you. This will help you understand better and make the situation more practical to be able to relate to. Take it as if it has been my own personal experience though there have not been once but many a times when I have approached attractive girls on the street and my tricks worked on them like a charm.
Alright, here I go!
I saw this beautiful girl on the street that almost looked like a model, very attractive with a sparkle in her eye. I approached her and said hi and she also in the same breeze said the same as if she is trying to only brush past me. And just before the moment could get over, I said, “Why? My good looks really scare you that badly? “(I knew I was just average looking). This stopped her in her tracks and she actually came back and was like “What did you say “I repeated, “Did my good looks really scare you away?”. What followed next told me that the nut had already been cracked. She smiled. She was like “I guess that was it, do you want to grab a table and talk a bit?”
The next 20 minutes were absolute bliss. We talked but then exactly after these 20 minutes, I looked at my watch and told her that I had to get going. She said “But we just started”.. Then I asked her about her e-mail address to which she said that we doesn’t have one. Then I told her that if she would give me her number, I would call her three times everyday. Well, it certainly intended to do what I saw on her lips. Her smile. She laughed and gave it to me and I said will I be able to get a hold of you on this number? She said yes and even showed me her cell phone number. So with this I rushed, leaving her speechless.
So we see that it is after all not that tough a thing to do if you develop the gift of the gab and know what to say at the right moment. Remember humor is a very important part of this game so keep yourself brushed with wit at all times. Nothing works better than that on girls!
Tags: girl, tricks, opportunities
Wed, August 13, 2008 10:07 am By James Coolridge
 If you are planning your first date, ensuring that everything falls into the right place from asking your girl out to choosing a day for the same are essentials you can’t afford to ignore. The most advisable days, however are the weekends when you can be relaxed and oblivious of your issues at work. But some people prefer week days for the reasons best known to them. Let’s see the pros and cons of weekends and weekdays so that you have the best to choose from!
So, when planning a date you may want to think about the attractiveness of a week night which can work to your benefit. But if you see, weekend is the only real free time people get. Well, the idea is not to make you diarized but again it is a fact of life in the early stages of dating and it helps too. However a week next Saturday for a date takes away some of the glamour I admit. For those thinking about weekdays, it is needless to say that they are fairly dull affairs in comparison and many take up hobbies or spend away rest of the time commuting.
The benefits!
Weekdays are far less formal than a weekend and a first date on a weeknight can be seen as far more relaxed and informal. Besides, week nights are not late night affairs and an unsuccessful date can be gently brought to an end. Therefore a dinner after work may be a good thing to wind up the day. All you need to do is just be yourself and go with the flow. You are not competing with some other glamorous occasion the girl could have attended so you are quite far away form facing any trouble.
Experience says that dating in the middle of the week also opens up the possibilities of more dates in a shorter amount of time and successful dates can be prolonged by now having them on weekends.
What if the girl says no to you?
All you need to do is be flexible with your arrangements. If a particular date or time does not suit the girl then be prepared to give her a choice of dates and locations. Also try to understand when she has reasons for doing other things and not choose to come with you. Most of the times when someone says no for a date, you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. This can prove to be a wrong habit. It is important for you to let her know that you are interested in her and that you don’t mind changing your plans because you care about what suits her and what not. The most imperative thing to be kept in mind here is the impression of you being too available because this may come across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate.
Tags: First Date, girl, woman
Mon, August 11, 2008 10:01 am By James Coolridge
 One of the age –old truths that have been prevailing as an essential part of relationships is the concept of proper timing. Be it regarding asking her out or the point in time when you actually meet, timing plays an eminent role in deciding whether or not you will go ahead in a relationship. This sole factor is responsible for damaging many a flourishing relationships and bonded many unexpected ones too. Well, this subject can run into many lines so the best concern will be to divide it into two articles or more. In this article we take a look into what it is and the situations we often confront under this.
Let’s start with some examples:
Meeting a great girl who wants to get married to you when you are aged 21 may just be wrong timing. Meeting a fantastic lady when you are working abroad or on a short trip in a different location may be bad timing. Meeting someone who wants children when you are not yet ready is again bad timing. This cannot be helped however. It is but a sad truth of life which we often confront in our lives at some time or the other. People we would have loved to have matured with are generally the ones we have encountered at a wrong time in our lives. And we are left with no option but to succumb to what has been served to us by the mystical maze called ‘life’.
There is so much more to it!
I remember the last time I asked a girl was just at a wrong moment. We are attracted to someone and take the initiative or opportunity, only to discover that she got married just two weeks earlier. Or we may find that she has just broken up with someone and is not yet ready for a new relationship. There can also be a family crisis and the girl you are interested in may not predisposed for a romantic encounter so all you hopes just die away in a jiffy. To top it all, if you add factors like illness, they only bring you sad news without you being at fault from any end.
On rare circumstances if someone accepts your proposal for a date then you can still control the timing somewhat better. It is best to go for a weekend because then you won’t need to go to work the following day and so can stay out later. If you want to make your weekend more memorable, you can go for some social events that are held with special themes. Going on a weekend works best because more restaurants open during that time.If you intend to have some fun or activity, then clubs, bars and discos are all far more attractive at a weekend and offer many more possibilities of dating.
The story still has a long way to go. If you truly identify with what’s mentioned then the forthcoming article is just an extension to this one. We’ll dig deeper into seeing how we can come out of such situations and more!
Tags: girl, relationships
Mon, July 14, 2008 5:09 am By Michael Rosso
 You might have read or heard a lot about the ways to pick up girls of your dreams. It doesn’t always sound easy, though some guys make it look like it is. So how does it work? Just follow a few tips and make the girl of your dreams fall in love with you! Read on.
First of all, you need to be big and strong-hearted coz the dating world is full of dumpers! There are fair chances of rejection by the fairer sex. But this doesn’t mean that you have to give up your dream!
What’s the next step? Make a great first impression? Yeah, you got it right! The first step in any exercise of romance is making the first impression lasting.
So how should you make a good first impression? Well, it is not necessary for you to talk, dress and act in a loud and hasty manner to get your dream girl’s attention! You don’t have to memorize the pick up lines to make a girl fall in love with you. All you need to do is just be natural and of course, unique in your own way. Here are some pointers to go along with the uniqueness thing.
Dress decently: Your dressing sense will reflect the real sense in you. So don’t dress in such a way as to look arrogant. Don’t dress like a wallflower either.
Mind your language! Don’t be obscene in front of her. Don’t use weird pick up lines just to grab her attention. You will end up looking immature, cheap and jerk. Remember, women don’t like jerks! Be decent in your looks as well as your words.
Be a man of culture: You can’t deny that smoking and excessive drinking are bad habits. Avoid them, at least in front of your dream girl.
Tags: Love, girl, dress, romance, fall, decent
Tue, June 24, 2008 4:39 am By James Coolridge
 Many guys find their own lives on hold for the woman they want who hangs around them appreciating their friendship. The women on the other hand, would never look at them as anybody else other than “good” or “best” friends.
When a woman meets a guy for the first time, she won’t take more than a few minutes to categorize him. If she files you away in the friendship file, then dude, just forget anything further ‘coz you will be stuck there forever. So, the best suggestion will be to move on and find another girl.
Well, moving on is not that easy in case if you have been secretly pining over for a girl since long. If you really want to have a change in your life, break the silence first. If you want to be more than a handy friend, just be up front about what you feel for her. If she maintains that she doesn’t love you more than just a friend, then why on earth should you hang around her? I hope you are not nuts to still believe that one fine day she will come up to you and realize that she needs you more than just a friend.
So should you break the years’ long friendship? Well, I say that there is no harm in maintaining the friendship with her. However, if you have started harboring feelings for her and keep it in secrecy, you should know that you are not doing justice to either one of you.
The stage of confession to a “friend” is at times a risk. But, you have to make the first move and speak your mind ‘coz the more you delay, the longer you are being unfair to both of you and the longer you are developing sexual fantasies that are less likely to come true. If you wait for that “right time” for confession, the more you are portraying yourself as her faithful little pet. You may even find that you are being used. You will become a handy friend, her shoulder to cry on and her loan department. Do you really want to be treated like that? Think it over.
Tags: Relationship, girl, argument, meet, woman, boy
Sun, June 22, 2008 10:39 am By James Coolridge
 An outing with the guys is a real fun to be off from the daily grind. The setting of your friend’s bachelor’s party is really relaxing, where burping and swearing are not censored.
But when you plan to accompany your girl to this ‘natural environment’, she may find the behaviour of your buddies sickening. She may even think of lessening the frequency of such jaunts. So to moderate the situation, build harmony between your girl and your pals. Follow a few tips to reverse her negative thoughts about your friends.
Clarify:
Ask your girl why she dislikes your friends. Ask questions such as “Does she think they cuss too much? Are they constantly checking out women? Does she believe they’re a bad influence on you?
Schedules:
It will be a turn-off if you cancel a movie night with your girl for a buddy’s birthday party. This may create ill-feelings for your buddy in the mind of your girl. Avoid clashes in the schedules so that you please both the parties.
Pay attention to everyone:
When you are hanging out with your buddies and your girl at the same time, make sure you are attentive to all of them.
Tags: girl, Buddies, pay attention, buddy’s birthday party
Thu, June 5, 2008 1:59 pm By James Coolridge
 Most men don’t practice “the art of staying single” (read alone). Yeah they do eat pizza alone, watch sports all day and drink with equally lonesome men. But the fact is, they don’t want to be in such situation. At the same time, they are dreaded to even think of walking up to a girl and make a start.
Saw a chick in the bar, Good! Like her, Great! She seems to return your gaze, Amazing! Wish you could have her number? Well you have to look beyond just wanting her number. You have to get her number and then get her!
Walk up to her (don’t forget to carry the infectious smile!), buy her a drink, start a chit-chat, make it interesting, be a little persuasive if she tries to hold back. Ones you have hit the right notes with her, she’ll herself give you her number or better, ask for yours!
Tags: Phone, girl, number, bar, chick, mobile
Sat, April 5, 2008 10:24 am By James Coolridge
 Well, weddings are not just about free food and open bar, especially when a close friend is getting hitched. Consider this; amidst all the responsibilities of being the “best man” can you handle your date? Be your own judge:
1. The wedding card should have your name, together with “and guest”. You don’t want people to call you name, or worst, not invite you, do ya?
2. Some people plan small weddings because they don’t want a big one. Not everyone adheres to “the more the merrier” mentality. Cost can be the issue, too. If it is, don’t weigh your friend down with additional expenditures.
3. Be mindful of the people and the families of the wedding you are going to attend. They might have a problem taking the vow in front of strangers.
So the next time, when you decide to take you chick to some wedding, bear in mind the above and then you could sure flaunt your hottie!
Tags: Date, girl, wedding, guest
Thu, April 3, 2008 12:38 pm By James Coolridge
 How can you say that you are too nice to a woman? Here are some of the indications:
• You are still hanging out with women as their “friends”.
• You are devoting all the time for her, sacrificing your personal life, your hobbies and your friends.
• You are too sincere and hones to her than she does.
• You compromise everything and give up avoiding conflicts.
• You idolize her.
The consequences?
Let us face it- being too nice is making your girl loose all the interest in you. She treats you nothing more than a doormat. Your image is projected as an insecure guy who is willing to give anything for a relationship. The ultimate result will be a destructive relationship. So, don’t act “too nice” to women.
Tags: girl, too nice, idolize
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