Once upon a time your life was all about your friends. You hung out together, you planned holidays together and you called each other at the weirdest hours of night or day. But that fairy tale ended when you got married.

This is what usually happens .Often when your partner is not a friend already; he/she is usually not familiar with your friends. Sometimes he or she doesn’t want to know your friends better. There may be resentment that you spend more time with them than him or her. There may be jealousy. He may think your best friend is too intrusive, she may think your best friend is too clingy. Both may hate it if the other calls his/her friends at strange times of the night, especially if the friend id of the opposite sex.

You want to preserve your relationship, so you sacrifice your friendship. You make new common friends and tough you try to keep up with your old circle of friends; you give up after a few years. “Almost all of us face this problem for some reason or the other if you cannot bridge the gap between the two relations, you often loose out on friendships, because partners and spouses are definitely the priority or problems might come up in the marriage. “ Experts say though it is impractical to expect your partner to always get along with your friends, some adjustments must be made. “it is oppressive to expect that your partner will like your friends the way you do.it is also oppressive for the partner to make demands regarding his/her friendships on you.”

Its okay if your partner doesn’t like all your friends .However adjustments are a must One must give both parties opportunities to find common ground. Both the partner and the friends should initiate friendship and show each other their willingness to get to know each other better. But if they don’t find any common ground its okay.Thats when you have to compromise. Its important to give your partner time alone with his/her friends. “Giving each other space is really impotant.”

Couples must avoid-
• Getting excessively intimate while with friends, it gets embarrassing for  the others.
• Being very choosy about what the group should do and time constraints
• Fighting in front of everyone
• Don’t expect your friends to change their plans all the time to accommodate you.

Conflicts are inevitable part of any relationship. However, if the conflict gets escalated to a point which poses threat to the mere existence of the relationship, the conflict should be avoided or the solved in its best possible way. Here are five simple methods to solve/manage a conflict.

Collaborate: Invite your partner’s perspective about the issue which gives way to an argument. Assert your views as well.

Compromise: Compromising doesn’t mean that you are the inferior. This will surely bring out quick and effective solutions to conflicts. Persuade and compromise whenever you can.

Accommodate: True love is reflected in a relationship when you accept your partner the way she is. Try to accept her views as well. If it is her fault, make her understand and try to rectify the mistake rather than blaming her for the situation. If it is the other way around, you should never forget to acknowledge the error.

Avoid: This is a nice and quick escape from the build up of conflict. Delay your response or walk out from the situation. It may sound awkward but surely works! This approach is applicable only when both of you are angry and need some time to cool down. Deviate yourself from the conflict for some time and then discuss the problem calmly if you calm down.