Commitment has been a very controversial subject. There are many definitions of it but the main idea of commitment is, that one person is completely dedicating themselves to a certain thing, in this case, their mate. There have always been many questions about commitment and how it is involved in a relationship. Questions such as, “is commitment important in a relationship?” Many people have tried to see what a relationship is like with out commitment and that is why that question is so important. There are other important questions, such as, “why is commitment hard for some, but

not for others?” In most cases, a woman is more ready for commitment then the man, and this is what brings up the question of why its hard for some but not others.

Another question might ask “what are some reasons a couple breaks up and get divorced?” Now a day in the US, over 50% of marriages fail and a divorce occurs. You have known each other for some time now. You feel that a reasonable level of compatibility exist between you. Your partner has demonstrated the desire, capability, and readiness to enter into a serious relationship with you. And you both feel in love with each other. Congratulations! You are ready to commit to a loving relationship.

You may decide on a legal wedding ceremony or, for the less traditional, a non-legal or private way of formalizing your commitment to each other. Whatever form you select, it is important to understand the true meaning of such commitment.

Your commitment to your mate is not your marriage license, your wedding ceremony, nor your living arrangements. When you commit, you are in fact agreeing to the following:

“After serious consideration and with full responsibility and integrity, I am agreeing to share my life with my partner; to assist in his/her personal growth development and happiness wherever and whenever I can. I also agree to cherish and protect this union with my partner so it can forever flourish and always remains a happy one. I am agreeing to this because I want to, and for no other reason.”

When you look at marriage in this way, it becomes easier to see why a marriage commitment does not end with a ceremony. Instead, it becomes a commitment for two people to strive toward, on a day-to-day basis. The commitment is to ensure the continued growth of each other and the relationship.

I always remember the expression on a young lady’s face when, one morning, she burst into the office where I worked. With excitement, pride, and contentment in her voice, she showed off her engagement ring. She had finally received a marriage proposal from a young man whom we all considered to be one of the most eligible bachelors around. She was the envy of all the women.

I later learned she had confided in close friends that, although she had hoped for a marriage proposal, she had not really expected one. She confessed that she had done all she could to win her fiancé, and that she was glad that it was over now. No, it is not over yet. Too many people see marriage as a point of arrival instead of the beginning of a long journey.

Too many people support the belief that after they have taken the necessary steps to secure a marriage commitment, they can relax in the comfort that their work is done. This kind of thinking can cause complacency, which is one of the killers of love relationships. I am reminded of an old saying: “The same things you did to win your partner are the same things you should do to keep him/her.”

Yes, there are good reasons to celebrate when two people decide to commit to each other in a loving relationship, but remember that this is only the beginning. Celebrate that you have been blessed with the good fortune to find a mate who has met your standards for eligibility, and that you have both fallen in love with each other.

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The concept of live-in relationship is when two people live-in together and decide not to get married in due course of time. It’s a western idea and lifestyle, which is being more acceptable in all societies gradually. Earlier it wasn’t accepted with same enthusiasm as it being now. Some couples find living together is easy but the other find lot of difficulties in it.

Researches have shown that most of the couple that spend lot of time living together are tend to marry and settle as family in a while. Imagine you being married and then you find out that you can’t live with that person? So it’s like a rehearsal before marriage.

• Duos are in love and want to spend more time together, so they think of settling down later on.

• They think both of them are compatible to each other and can spend their whole life together.

• Most of the people today believe that they cannot think of settling down with someone whom they have not lived with.

• People who think they are not ready for a family commitment and responsibility yet.

• It’s a good reality check for partners. Because once you live with someone you know the person more. Through time, a person’s true colours reveal.

• Couples who prefer their current lifestyle of enjoying life together i.e. travelling, shopping, and enjoying good food, etc. don’t want to get into family life. So they opt for it.

Keep in mind that the idea of living together ruin relationships is not supported in any research. Live-in together is a common and popular concept of settling down with partner among youngsters.

Though there are not many benefits to be talked of. One gets to know the reality when they enter such relationship and live with that. There are some issues to be settled and commitments to be made before getting into any relation. Like don’t forget to keep your expectations realistically and make the decision seriously and with great care. As long as both partners agreeable to this type of relationship, there shouldn’t be any problem. It’s all about being YOU TWO..!!!

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