We often talk about how changing times have given vent to changing perceptions, paving way for societies being more open and individuals turning modernistic in their views. But there are still a few left who not only condemn these variations that have taken place in social arena but have also come up with their own set of defenses against attraction between a man and a woman.
With civilizations becoming open and more assimilative to modernistic ideologies, new lifestyles have cropped up which have drastically changed the way with which people not only exchange their verbal expressions but also represent their physical attires. To be able to wear one’s attitude up one’s sleeve is the greatest boon these times have given us but there are few among us who think otherwise and feel that these attributes have concocted our values and reverence we carried towards relationships. Let’s see what they are!

• Because people are allowed to choose their own partners, their divorce rates have increased.

• Couples have started cheating each other.

• Women have turned more materialistic.

• The concept of dating is an absolute failure. Only pre-arranged marriages work well because they have been doing so since years now.

• If people start listening to their hearts, they will become no less than animals.

• Flirting is not the right thing to do because it creates uncertainty. Only logical things fair well when it comes to knowing a person.

• Women who wear bold clothes only create problems.

Where some of the above mentioned myths may hold true in some contexts, most are mere hollow beliefs people carry because of their own unlike experiences. Attraction has had no rules, be it old times or new. It is a chemistry that may spark in the most unusual circumstances and may not spell it at all in the most obvious situations. Hence the fact of the matter is every era has its own pros and cons but stigmatizing a particular lifestyle or ideology doesn’t sound logical nor does it have any role to play in upgrading or demeaning the science of attraction!

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There are five stages in a relationship. You’ll probably recognize when you moved in and out of these relationship stages.
The Main Five Stages in a Relationship
Lasting on one stage depends on the couple. Some couples never advance to the later stages because of incompatibility or emotional immaturity.

Stage One: Attraction and Romance
Every couples experience this phase. It happens in the beginning when both are in process of knowing each other. It can be called as fantasy phase because at this time the partner seems to be perfect. This phase lasts can last for some months to few years also.

Both of them focus on the similarities in this stage. You are likely that you are spending a lot of time together, seems that you are in love, after all, and you can’t think of being apart from your lover. Conflict is not only avoided in this stage but seems like it will never happen at all. It is fun in this stage but is not sustainable. People who are constantly changing partners are often trying to remain in this stage.

Stage Two: Reality Sets In
This stage will begin to creep in slowly in your relationship. In this phase, you don’t like your partner’s behaviors and start to see flaws. It’s not that you are no longer in love, but your partner doesn’t seem as great as he or she was in stage one.

The stage features many feelings running through your body that gives you a “high” sensation. Your body can’t resist this up forever, and so in this stage your relation begins to level down. You may even think that whether you are still in love or not.

Stage Three: Disappointment
When began as reality two often turns to disappointment in stage three. The problem arises that as a couple they know that arguments are bad but then also they are angry at each other. Some of the anger can be such as small differences between you. You don’t realize that conflict can be healthy, you wonder if this relationship is about to be over. In fact, you likely have thoughts of breaking up or getting divorced.

Stage Four: Stability
If a couple can go through the situation of stage three, they will find that stage four offers much rest and enjoyment. You now have history together and you have been able to work through some differences as being a couple. The fantasy of over, but you have accepted this. You have lots of differences and you sometimes fight, but you love your partner; feel connected to him or her, and you trust that you can work out in future conflicts.

You may, sometime, feel that you are little bored as the chase is definitely over. You may also miss the feelings what you felt in starting and wonder if those feelings can be found in someone else.

Stage Five: Commitment
Few couples make it till this stage, even couples who are married. In this stage, you are truly a team. You have chosen to be with your partner, flaws and all. You no longer miss the romance because that would lead to create space between both and it mean being with a new person and you don’t want that. You have a dream for the future together as a couple. If dating, this is the stage where you can get married and feel comfortable with that decision. It is a stage of mature and sustainable love.

Conclusion
Knowing about the stages in a relationship can help you understand your feelings about your partner and your relationship. It is natural to lose those early romantic feelings but that something it awaits more deeper for you in a later stage. The stages requires communication and hard work. It is worth the effort when you find the right person to share the your life.

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