Arxman - Dating Blog http://www.arxmandating.com Just another WordPress weblog Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:28:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 en Is your woman solar powered? http://www.arxmandating.com/is-your-woman-solar-powered/ http://www.arxmandating.com/is-your-woman-solar-powered/#comments Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:28:41 +0000 James Coolridge http://www.arxmandating.com/is-your-woman-solar-powered/ Is your woman solar powered?This is one thing I have always wondered since many years now when the winter snow takes over for half a year and you are left hunting for some pretty faces but you never get to see one. I am sure some of you would also agree with me on this because in winters I have often seem men so very hard pressed to spot even a single damsel down the cafeteria or the theatre. The only things you get to see all around are humans clad in coats, hats and scarves and you wonder where in the world all the girls have gone!

The moment summer begins and sunshine falls on your panes, you know that spring/summer is welcoming you with open arms. The sky turns orange and the local public area suddenly becomes a temple of female beauty. What I am left wondering is, where do they come from? For good 6 months, these goddesses are not to be seen any where; perhaps hibernating in Ibiza or Alaska I suppose. They are not to be spotted either in mine or even my friends’ offices.

The only option you are left with is coming to the conclusion that these girls are certainly shipped in for the summer to your city to drive you crazy. To me this has always been a perennial mystery. Sometimes I also end up thinking that it must be a figment of my imagination.

Whatever it is, it is a great time of the year because where you yourself are getting ready to shift from being over clad in winters to lazy shift to shorts and t-shirts, women turn into sun-worshipping supermodels at the drop of the hat.

So my advice to all of those who are expecting some spice in a foreign country and are planning a vacation, please make your trips in summers as women here, gentlemen as my observation are solar powered!

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Have you ever noticed that when you are not in a good mood, every one around you also looks irritable? This happens because your mood is capable of influencing not only your own behavior but also of those around you.

If you intend to attract smart attractive women towards you, then you need to exude the similar kind of energy from yourself as well. In simple words, you need to be happy. Because when you are happy from your heart, you spread the similar of vibes around you and people sharing the same emotion will get attracted towards you. There are times when we often demean yourselves and our circumstances, isn’t it? What do you think we are doing by that? We are developing a foul emotion within us and if we don’t like ourselves for some reason, we’ll grow grumpy and this is certainly not going to attract intelligent women towards us.

In fact all aspects in your life are inter-related. Consider you are at a club with some mates enjoying your brew. It’s Friday night and you achieved a ton during the past week at your job. You took out another CD this week for 20k because financially you’re very responsible, and tomorrow your new surfboard will be done at the shapers! All this makes you extremely happy and you are simply pleased with the way life is going. The happiness you feel within your heart will radiate out like a positive energy for others to see. This in turn will make your aura more positive and you’ll attract people with similar mindsets near you as well. If they are women, then they will pick up on your love life and will be more than happy to be in your company.

Another positive aftermath of being happy at heart is you’ll not have to put in any effort to genuinely smile at a beautiful woman you’ve just been introduced to. You will come across as an enthusiastic person and it will be hard for women to NOT get attracted to you under these circumstances.

So my dear friend, just have faith in yourself, try to simply your life so that you can take charge of it and the world will be at your feet within no time! So long and god bless!

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When you like a woman or take her out for a date, the first thing that strikes you is impressing her, isn’t it? And what do you do? Well, you start thumping your chest as loud as you as like a gorilla which in your words means, ‘Look what I can do”. You start blowing your own trumpet and graciously start telling her what you’ve done or what you can do. In a nutshell, you start talking about how great you are!

My dear friends, this is the first step which you miss and it ends up becoming your last in your relationship with your woman. If you keep your lady listening to you for all the time you meet her on your date, she’ll is bound to get bored and irritable of you.

The solution!
The solution to this is the opposite of what you do, my dear! Just close your mouth and let your lady talk. This is so because woman love to talk. You only participation in the conversation should be to interject a positive comment in between to show that you are paying attention to what she is saying and you are approving every bit of it. Sometimes you can also rephrase what she is saying and repeat it for her. This really impresses a girl as she feels important and if she feels important, you are going to be made the king the rest of time in future.

So after you immediately start dating your lady, let her speak as much as she can or wants to Let this continue for the first month of your dating.

Well, my list of advices never really seems to end. My next article will be a continuation of this one only so keep yourself glued and be a good listener!

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I don’t think such a woman ever leaves a man saying that you are not good looking and hence I can’t continue with you. Well, if she was so bothered about it so much, she wouldn’t have agreed to date with you in the first place. But what if smart, intelligent women don’t date with you just because you are way too older to them? What if they don’t notice you in the first place only?

You know what?
You now don’t need to worry about women not noticing you over any of these reasons now. This is because you can now make young, intelligent women get attracted to you at your own will, irrespective of your bank balance, your age or your looks. You can now seduce them at your own leisure and make them fall in love with you with intensity that’ll have shivers running down your spine.

How?
By tapping their heart, their emotions! Women are emotional beings. They think from their hearts, not their brains. Logic plays a minimal role in their decision making when it comes to choosing their partner. If you try logical things by being a nice guy and thinking that good girls are bound to get attracted to a good guy, you are absolutely wrong. Good girls (and this may hurt you) get attracted to bad guys who don’t have even an iota of intelligence like yours.

So my dear friend, its time to get that streak of wildness out now. If you tell women what they are willing to listen rather than what you think is right, I bet you’ll never miss a hit at the super beautiful damsel, you have always been wanting to talk!

Tags: Love, Dating Tips, impressing women, dating women]]> http://www.arxmandating.com/the-science-of-attraction/feed/ Tips for a lasting relationship! http://www.arxmandating.com/tips-for-a-lasting-relationship/ http://www.arxmandating.com/tips-for-a-lasting-relationship/#comments Sun, 16 Nov 2008 06:03:39 +0000 James Coolridge http://www.arxmandating.com/tips-for-a-lasting-relationship/ Tips for a lasting relationship!The first thing in this regard to make sure whether the girl you are dating is worthy of being your long-term partner or not. I am not asking you to be judgmental but knowing the person before hand is imperative for you before you think of investing your energies in her.

So when you first start dating, let your lady do the talking. As it is women love to talk and if you willingly allow them to do so, you are only telling them that you want to pay attention to them. This will help you know here better and release you of the effort of making a decision about what kind of person she is. So the rule of the thumb in this regard is don’t talk about yourself when you first meet someone. Have fun with her, crack jokes but clam up when the conversation turns to specific areas about your life. Turn yourself into a mystery and women won’t be able to get enough of you.

In fact the same lies even after you commit yourself in a relationship. Never give yourself completely to your woman too soon. Not even she has long been your girl friend or your wife for that matter. Let her discover something new about you at different stages of your life and you’ll see that the fun and excitement in your life will never hit the dumps.

Another key piece of information that I must tell you is that, the moment a lady gets bored with a relationship, consider its end has come. You may not like to hear this but this is a proven fact. In married relationships, I have seen women going in for extra-marital affair for this one sole reason. It is sad, but true. So always be someone who’s fun to be with, someone with whom people love to spend time with. Humor plays a great role in this regard. You can also invest in some hobbies or areas of interest like traveling etc. I am not asking you to do all this against your happiness so that you can impress your lady. This is one way of enriching your love life you must exercise and you’ll see that your woman will become addicted to your energy.

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Here’s your answer!
The biggest advantage you are getting out of letting the girl talking initially is you’ll get to know most about her in the first few weeks of dating her itself. By letting her talk you’re discovering which category she belongs to. Whether she is one-night stand types, just dating material or possibly someone more serious. Also as a person who doesn’t want to create any unnecessary mess in his life, you should not before hand whether that girl is worth you or not.

Sooner or later, you will have to certainly open up but in this first month, you can focus on discovering whether she is worth of your attention or not. All you need to do is be confident and playful on your dates and try giving as much little information as you can about yourself as possible. Be smart and witty in answering questions she pops out for you every now and then and switch the conversation back to her within no time. Women often tend to miss this stuff so you can be assured in here.

There lies one more reason in talking less in the beginning. Women love mysterious men. If you have an air of curiosity surrounding you all the time, women will feel intrigued to know more and more about you and this will keep her at her toes all the time. Creating a balance is important. Don’t ruin it for her by letting her know every single detail about your proudest achievements within the first 10 minutes of your meeting her. Even if you don’t have anything to be proud of she doesn’t know that! She’ll daydream and fantasize about how mysterious you are.

Ideally even a long term girlfriend or wife should be discovering new things about you for years to come!

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Don’t you worry, just follow some simple rules and enjoy the time with your date.
1. Look your best: Don’t try to be professional or ethnic when have to go for a meet. Be calm, chill and dress in clothes which suit you the best. Be contemporary in your wear-up. What ever you wear do remember to check your shoes as women always look at your shoes even if the last time your shoes were out on your anniversary!
2. Look and be hygienic and styling sorted out: Visit a barber before you plan for a meet and set out your hair, get a decent style. If you don’t have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you are comfortable with. Put good quality cologne. We understand! It means expenditure… but it’s a date which you need to impress! Remember… Women will appreciate it!

3. Are you on Job? Women mainly look for a guy who earn well. At least good enough to fulfill her ambition! So, any job is better than none. It might be possible that in her first meet itself, she may ask present and future plans!!!! Ooops.. now what to say! So, better be prepared.

4. How about your General Knowledge: Women do not appreciate stupidity and laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important to be aware of and have the understanding of like sitting in a entrance examination. So, make sure you are updated with the current affairs and the quality of news you watch and read. It does bring an impact.

5. How about Sports…: Aaahh! Another shot… Like sports… good, but if sport is a religion for you then you are bringing trouble in your life. We know that millions of girls love sport too and that is fine but don’t make your passion into a one-sided one.

6. Do you drink or smoke? Smoke – Give up right away. Girls hate men who smoke and yes do take care of this too that you can never win a princess heart if she gets to know that you are drinking in bar 5 nights a week and that you live in there only.

7. Start Listening and stop talking: The most important point in all seven. Don’t turn into one man entertainer. Do listen to her as she is there with you to share her view and thoughts. Women love to chat and listening her will give a good impact of yours. Don’t believe! Try it!

hmmm… now even if you are world’s worst dancer you have to do two left flat feet. So join some Salsa Classes today and Get started!

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Well to have pleasant date with your partner or spouse or your lover –
1. Arrive on time: Whether you are picking your date from her home or meeting at some place the first thing that you are meeting her. So, reach early or be on time, else she will take the other way round of yours coming late that either a) you are not willing to come or b) there is no excitement in you for the meet.

2. Bring flowers or some gift: Saying flowers may seem that it’s an outdated tradition now… but the thing is that Women still love flowers. If you are not aware of her choice then Roses are always there to cover all flowers in queue. Whether the date is a first date or you have been dating for years, women will always appreciate the romantic gesture of receiving flowers.

3. Treat her like a lady: Giving an equal level respect to her, care and love which she is liable of to keep the lit of love and togetherness always existing within you and her. Show her your care by opening the doors for her whenever you have to enter. This applies to cars and buildings. When entering a building, open the door and allow her to enter first. Never walk in before the woman, this is considered rude and inconsiderate by some. Pull out her chair for her and wait for her to be seated before sitting down.

4. Don’t Talk work: Take it a rule of thumb, never ever talk about your work, unless your date asks about it. Answer her question, but keep it brief.

5. Have sense of humor: Women want to spare good time with their dates. Try to add humor and avoid dirty jokes as they can create a nasty environment which may lead to not good result! So, try to make your date laugh or at least make her smile with your wit and charm.

Tags: Impress Woman, Dating Tips, men dating, good date, ]]> http://www.arxmandating.com/how-to-have-a-pleasant-date/feed/ Successful Dating Tips http://www.arxmandating.com/successful-dating-tips/ http://www.arxmandating.com/successful-dating-tips/#comments Wed, 12 Nov 2008 12:11:38 +0000 James Coolridge http://www.arxmandating.com/successful-dating-tips/ Successful Dating TipsThere is always a fear of word “Yes” or “No” when guys have to go out for dating. Today guys and gals have grown advance with the advancement in technology. There are many things that have evolved in the course of time rather than that of only meeting. Chatting, SMS’s, Video conferencing and many fast furious terminologies that now have been evolved to meet online rather than a personal meeting. However, one can never say that the date is complete till meet personally.

The first date can be a girl you have a crush on or meeting just casually. You are confused, palms are sweating and trying to come up with something exciting and funny, but are unable to say anything and the process goes in silence in conversation. And by the time you come in a position to speak… its time for the lady to say good bye!

Aaah… tried to have exciting day but all went wrong! We understand the above situation turned upside-down and was like a worst nightmare. But then, this is not the same with all men. Some guys do something boring on the first date. Plan to go to the movies together, sitting at a cafe, having an expensive dinner at a restaurant – the list is endless.

But then, are we impressing our lady and is the date planed the way it should be adventurous is it the same way! Think about it! What should be done to have the first date always memorable?

We try the following … they might be of use for you for your first date.
Stay calm and look fresh. The appointed day to meet - start your day with good music. Get dressed in a well and proper manner, may be in T-shirt and Jeans with Nike shoes and a good fragrance of perfume. Stay chill and happy and mood real refreshing.

Go to the market and purchase a nice good bouquet of flowers. Avoid gifts as you may not be aware whether whatever you take would be liked by her or not. So, no risk flowers still adorable gift for girls.

Reach to pick her from her home on time or if there is a place to meet reach there early. Take it a point never let your lady to reach before. If you know that possibility of Jam could be within the way leave your place early else it would be an insult for the lady.

Take her to a place where the crowd is not in heavy density. Walk and talk for things in your life and listen what she has to say from her side. And ya… point it the first date should be without any non-sense talk - Polite, humble and with respect. Listen to her and be a good listener. Then carry on this conversation to a good food in a good, hygienic restaurant. Share good words, good experiences, her taste of talk and share yours too.

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It’s said and is a fact too, that it is not easy to understand women. But there lies one more point that she is natures ever created beauty that is a root for a family, a blossom for father, a flower for a husband and softness and fragrance for her kids. So, a man should understand that this care and love can only be beholded by a lady and that he should ever take care, give respect and love to the lady of his life.

As per the first time dating or even if you are dating frequently, remember that it should be a remarkable date for you both. The lost smile should be there, heart full of care and love and warmth of togetherness should always be visible from you.

The dating should refresh the evergreen memories of your past else if it’s the first then it should create the memories for ever. Freshness on your face, fresh flowers for your beloved one, a bit of flirting, a cheerful environment, a candle light dinner, slight movement in body for dance should be fantastic way to show your love on date.

On your date be active and not nasty because ladies prefer enjoying the date with togetherness and not with dirty happenings. Arrival on time is always essential for men for his lady and yes! Be a gentleman for her and dress up gently. Compliment her when you meet. Listen to her and ask questions.

Do remember your impression as it matters a lot and it even says that first impression is a last impression. So, if you are dating do consider about your dressing and looks.

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