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RSSCombating the Commitment Phobia
Many single (men & women) and even married people face deep rooted fears related of commitment. The more emotionally intimate a relationship becomes the greater the feelings of uncertainty and doubt become for commitment phobic people.
Fear of commitment can be due to various causes such as a separation of parents, divorce, and death, poor role models, witnessing offensive relationships as a child, a previous unfaithful partner, fear of rejection or simply fear of loosing ones freedom.
Creating a strong, steady and loving relationship means being able to overcome anxieties, fears and insecurities of such nature. It is essential if you want the relationship to continue to combat your fear of commitment.
Here are some steps to fight the fear:
First and foremost acknowledge that you actually do want to share your life with someone. Discuss your life objectives and dreams together, as well as revealing inner selves to one another. Doing so will enhance trust, closeness and intimacy.
 Next is to acknowledge your fears, recognizing that you fear commitment. After this try to find the cause of this fear, a failed relationship, your parents divorce, loosing your independence etc. Only once that you have isolate the cause of the fear can you work it out. Discuss this fear with your lover so that they can understand and also so that they can help out. (Maybe they have overcome the same problems)
Try taking small steps towards commitment with your partner i.e. exchanging apartment keys-going on a long holiday- living together etc. If your partner is commitment phobic it would just strain and eventually break the relationship if you try to hurry them into committing these steps, take it sloe and easy.
