It’s true that men and women are naturally attracted towards each other; they want to feel like they found a hidden treasure. But mysterious that doesn’t mean to become inaccessible that you will not answer the phone, pretend you are busy etc. If you pretend from chasing you and disappear he or she has no body to chase.

Most of the people who do such type of things end up in sitting by the phone listening to the ring, ring, ring, ring… all the while wondering whether I should pick up the phone or not.

It’s nothing else than immaturity and emotional unhealthiness to mess with your own emotions.

Should allow the other person to access your busy life and let him or her be able to contact you, but go on with your own life as you normally would. Don’t change your whole lifestyle for someone else, and please don’t pretend to have a life just to get him or her to chase you. Nobody is hurted in all this except one person that is you because you are the only one who knows what you are doing. The other person might actually think you are too busy that’s why you don’t pick up the phone.

Get a real life, a booming career or do something for someone else, make plans for guys’ or girls’ night out just make sure it doesn’t involve anyone’s dates. If he or she doesn’t call, your day or time was not wasted because you were not sitting waiting.

When your life is not programmed according to their schedule you can afford not to sound too eager or desperate when he or she says. “I’ll call you”. Instead of saying, “OK, I’ll wait for your call”; you can comfortably say “I’ll speak to you soon.”

And when he or she calls, whenever you’ll have real plans. You can then invite him or her into your interesting life by suggesting things to do that you both enjoy.
The fact is, if you have a lot of exciting things going on in your life people will want to become part of it. And when you’re actually enjoying your life, it’s not game playing because you’re not pretending to be busy to try to mess with his or her mind.

A little bit of mystery, challenge and out of reach every now and then can inspire him or her not to become complacement or take you for granted.

For example, he or she may suggest that you get together the same evening you have hockey/dance class on Tuesday, do you want to come to the game/class?” If he or she says, “No, Thursday is not good for me”, and doesn’t suggest another day or time, you can leave the ball in his or her court by saying “If you change your mind about Thursday evening, you know where to find me”.

If he or she suggests another day or time and you have nothing lined up, the two of you can go ahead and have a great time.

Sends the message that your life is full and exciting and he or she is welcome to share it with you, if he or she wants to. If not, life goes on.

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The first thing in this regard to make sure whether the girl you are dating is worthy of being your long-term partner or not. I am not asking you to be judgmental but knowing the person before hand is imperative for you before you think of investing your energies in her.

So when you first start dating, let your lady do the talking. As it is women love to talk and if you willingly allow them to do so, you are only telling them that you want to pay attention to them. This will help you know here better and release you of the effort of making a decision about what kind of person she is. So the rule of the thumb in this regard is don’t talk about yourself when you first meet someone. Have fun with her, crack jokes but clam up when the conversation turns to specific areas about your life. Turn yourself into a mystery and women won’t be able to get enough of you.

In fact the same lies even after you commit yourself in a relationship. Never give yourself completely to your woman too soon. Not even she has long been your girl friend or your wife for that matter. Let her discover something new about you at different stages of your life and you’ll see that the fun and excitement in your life will never hit the dumps.

Another key piece of information that I must tell you is that, the moment a lady gets bored with a relationship, consider its end has come. You may not like to hear this but this is a proven fact. In married relationships, I have seen women going in for extra-marital affair for this one sole reason. It is sad, but true. So always be someone who’s fun to be with, someone with whom people love to spend time with. Humor plays a great role in this regard. You can also invest in some hobbies or areas of interest like traveling etc. I am not asking you to do all this against your happiness so that you can impress your lady. This is one way of enriching your love life you must exercise and you’ll see that your woman will become addicted to your energy.

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