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Sun, September 21, 2008 11:03 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 Okay let me be precise. What do smart men do when they meet a woman who’s really attractive? Right, they start a logical conversation. They do so because they feel most comfortable while talking about things that suit them the most. What they don’t know is they are shooting themselves right in the foot by doing so. Let’s see how.
Most of us have a specific few tactics laid down before us which we keep repeating all the time, only to see that we have landed empty handed at the end of it all. When you start a logical conversation with a woman you’ve just met, you are basically taking out a neon sign that says “I don’t get it when it comes to women” and putting it on your head.
So what does these things include? Well, most often talks about work and family take place. Discussions on politics, religion, weather and anything that has to do with math, science, or intelligence are the choicest things that are picked. No, it’s not bad to talk about these if only a conversation is what you want to focus on. But if your cynosure is the woman in front of you, then you need to get into a different skin.
Have you ever noticed that all women say that they want sweet, nice guys but they all date sexy, selfish bad boys? The answer to this is;
Women don’t get attracted to men who make them think.
Women get attracted to men who make them FEEL
So even if you one of the most intelligent men on earth, it won’t really help until you know the language of the heart. Women are emotional beings. They need to be touched with words that stirs emotion in them, that makes them believe that you like them beyond their bodies. That you are in love with the beauty of their heart. If you think that talking about how the world works can alone help you win her heart, you need to get your facts right.
Its all about making her feel loved and logical conversations have no role to play in it.
Tags: Dating, Dating Tips, First Date, impressing women, dating advice
Thu, September 18, 2008 12:20 pm By James Coolridge
 First dates are usually a great way to gauge the all important 3 C’s – chemistry, compatibility and communication. After all what matters at the end of the day is the quality and the strength of the relationship that you intend building.
Sound foundation of any relationship should not be based entirely on passion between two people though it may be an important ingredient.
On first dates, it is more important to concentrate on having a good time than to worry about the kiss. The key to a great and successful first date is the comfort that you enjoy with your partner. Spending your entire date thinking and agonizing about kissing on first date may act as a deterrent in you enjoying the evening and getting to know him.
A kiss on the cheek is a common greeting. And so is the “goodnight kiss”. It is entirely your prerogative where you want to end your date– in bed with him or in bed but alone!!
It may be hard to know where your relationship might lead to on the first date. No matter how much you think that it is the ideal case of love at first sight there may be a chance of things not going your way. For all you know the guy might have stinking breath!!!
Most guys expect a lip lock which they would like to end in their beds. However, not everyone is a fan of kissing on their first date. Here are a few suggestions on how you can avoid kissing on the first date.
Your right to say no: First you need to realize that it is completely within your right to say no to being kissed on the first date.
No mixed signals: While out on your date be sure in your mind about what you want. Don’t give him signals that are confusing and might be interpreted in such a manner that is contrary to what you want—no kiss!
Set the rules: You can set the rules at the beginning of the date through your behavior and body language and be consistent the whole time. Don’t flirt with him and or look him in the eyes for too long.
Wear a dark coloured lipstick: In fact, I suggest you wear red lipstick on your first date because guys won’t attempt to kiss you with it on!!!
Remember in order to experience a truly breathtaking first kiss you must do it with someone you really care about. Someone who makes your heart beat faster and your pulse race. Otherwise it’s just another kiss that is unexciting and dull. So do not kiss someone just to say you’ve been kissed. Kiss someone who really means something to you.
Tags: Love, Relationship, First Date, kiss, avoid kiss, no kiss
Sun, August 24, 2008 5:53 am By James Coolridge
 Once you’ve settled on a time and place for the occasion, it’s time for you to figure out what you’re going to wear. Everyone wants to create a fashionable impression and your dress is the first thing with which your personality is assessed .Obviously, the first date of everyone’s life is an unforgettable affair. By now we all know the cold, hard, ugly truth; people judge us on how we look before we ever even get a chance to say a word
So for that you have to look your best, deciding what to wear on a first date is of course important, but always difficult. First date holds the promise of something new, something exciting and hopefully, an outstanding ending.
First date dressing is tough because you usually don’t know the other person well enough to predict what will be attractive to her.
To help you out here are a few first-date dressing tips
• Don’t wear a suit unless you’re coming from the office itself.
• Remember to compliment your date on what she is wearing. All females love to be flattered.
• Wear clothes that fit properly.
• If your feet are really fair, then only wear sandals. Otherwise, go for shoes.
• Don’t wear humorous clothes and accessories. Such type of clothing is not right for a first date.
• Use a little aftershave.
• Use a good perfume.
• If you’ve no idea about fashion, don’t try to impress your date with your knowledge which could be a backfire on you.
Basically you should wear comfortable clothes and have confidence in yourself. You should be able to carry yourself well. If you follow the above mentioned steps there is surely a next chance with your girl.However,impressing her with an attractive outfit is not a substitute for self-confidence or a positive attitude, but it definitely gives her a good impression. You can also go in for something that stands out but nothing too flashy. If you know something about your date already i.e. what he or she likes on you. Then you should dress up accordingly. Considering the location also goes a long way in steering your look in the right direction.
Tags: Love, confidence, Impression, attire
Sat, August 16, 2008 10:39 am By James Coolridge
 If you want your date to culminate in a long-term relationship, its time you learn some tricks that’ll help your girl know you better, most importantly like you and leave her wanting to know more about you. But most often than not, we often find people committing some silly mistakes that washes away all the hard work they’ve delved in, so far. So here we bring some essential dating tips that’ll help you achieve this with absolute ease!
Never expect date on the first date!
Men should never take some things for granted. Women are sensitive creatures and if you intend to show your machismo by going overboard in asking her to have sex with you the very first day of your date, let me warn you, you are in for a big trouble Sir. The thumb rule is never expecting sex on the first date. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing more good than being a patient man. If you really like her, you are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls and screwing it all up.
Mannerism reign!
If you are in for a long-lasting relationship, then it time for you to sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman loves being treated well, particularly with respect and veneration. If you are adept in using coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness, drop them all like hot bricks and think of yourself as a man with new skin. Well, if you are aiming high, then you should know how to eat in a top restaurant and about some flowers in particular. Courtesies like opening a door for a woman, letting her go first and helping her with her seat pay off really well. It is good to listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. It is imperative for you to show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.
Listen!
If you are a chatter box, it is time to start listening and stop talking. It is important for you to keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer also. This will make her bored because as much as you like to speak so much, she also wants to talk about you. She Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Well, this may not come as a good news to you but women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her by the bucketful.
So here we are! Building a relationship with women is a beautiful process. It is like extending yourself to know someone who is meant to complete you as a person. So make the most of it and you’ll realize that the world was never this charming before!
Tags: First Date, Listen, charming
Wed, August 13, 2008 10:07 am By James Coolridge
 If you are planning your first date, ensuring that everything falls into the right place from asking your girl out to choosing a day for the same are essentials you can’t afford to ignore. The most advisable days, however are the weekends when you can be relaxed and oblivious of your issues at work. But some people prefer week days for the reasons best known to them. Let’s see the pros and cons of weekends and weekdays so that you have the best to choose from!
So, when planning a date you may want to think about the attractiveness of a week night which can work to your benefit. But if you see, weekend is the only real free time people get. Well, the idea is not to make you diarized but again it is a fact of life in the early stages of dating and it helps too. However a week next Saturday for a date takes away some of the glamour I admit. For those thinking about weekdays, it is needless to say that they are fairly dull affairs in comparison and many take up hobbies or spend away rest of the time commuting.
The benefits!
Weekdays are far less formal than a weekend and a first date on a weeknight can be seen as far more relaxed and informal. Besides, week nights are not late night affairs and an unsuccessful date can be gently brought to an end. Therefore a dinner after work may be a good thing to wind up the day. All you need to do is just be yourself and go with the flow. You are not competing with some other glamorous occasion the girl could have attended so you are quite far away form facing any trouble.
Experience says that dating in the middle of the week also opens up the possibilities of more dates in a shorter amount of time and successful dates can be prolonged by now having them on weekends.
What if the girl says no to you?
All you need to do is be flexible with your arrangements. If a particular date or time does not suit the girl then be prepared to give her a choice of dates and locations. Also try to understand when she has reasons for doing other things and not choose to come with you. Most of the times when someone says no for a date, you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. This can prove to be a wrong habit. It is important for you to let her know that you are interested in her and that you don’t mind changing your plans because you care about what suits her and what not. The most imperative thing to be kept in mind here is the impression of you being too available because this may come across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate.
Tags: First Date, girl, woman
Mon, August 4, 2008 3:34 pm By James Coolridge
 Preparing for a first date can be quite nerve-wracking, even for the most mature of individuals. The key is to take it easy and decide that you are going to have a good time no matter what happens. Although first impressions are important, it helps to take some of the pressure off yourself “to perform” and decide that you are just going to be yourself. If you decide you are going to have a good time, then you probably will. However, there are some steps you can take to put yourself at ease before that all-important first date that can help make it a better experience for both of you.
First of all, make sure the date will be something you will enjoy. If your date suggests going sailing but you can’s swim and suffer from seasickness, don’t be afraid suggest an alternative. Suggest that the two of you check out the latest art exhibition or that new scary movie that just opened. Try to choose something that is fun and exciting for both you. This will definitely take the pressure off you to entertain or amuse your partner with conversation.
Dating experts suggest that women should not dress too sexy on for a first date. Avoid exposing too much cleavage or fishnet stockings unless you are sure you want to have sex on the first date
Men should try to avoid looking too casual in that “I shop at Wal-Mart way” way. Sweats or T-shirts and jeans are also a no-no. Dress casually, but smart .
Conversely, women should not keep men waiting while they are getting ready. Sometimes it helps to have a cocktail before you leave the woman’s house to break the ice a little. It is important to patient, as sometimes the other person is as nervous as you are and doesn’t necessarily express anything but awkwardness or anxiety for the first few minutes.
During the rest of the evening, the woman should not scorn or reject the man’s attempts to open doors for her and pull out her chair for her. He is trying to be sweet, not set back feminism twenty years!
According to relationship experts, the best way to keep your date attracted to you is to always have them identify you with the idea of excitement. Don’t be afraid to show a little spontaneity by suggesting that you take a walk in the park or explore a new attraction after your date.
At the end of the night, most dates end with a kiss. While kissing your date good-bye avoid the reassuring pat on the back. A lack of a kiss may indicate that there is not a sexual relationship in the future. If this happens don’t expect a call for a second date and be content in knowing that you have just made yourself another very good friend.
Tags: Dating, Love, relationships
Wed, May 14, 2008 1:14 pm By James Coolridge
 So you are gonna have the first dating experience and you wanna make her bowled over on the very first date! Well, to hit the bull’s eye on the very first date, you need to work on your appearance. She may thing for a second date or decide to dump you depending on what you wear on the day and how you carry it throughout. Hence, what you wear on the day is very crucial. Here are few tips for you on how to dress down and impress your girl on the first date.
Dress sensibly: Don’t look like a nerd by hiding behind your plain and shapeless clothes. You don’t have to make a bold statement on the very first date either by wearing too fancy. Dress sensibly. Wear clothes and colors that accentuate your looks.
Dress according to the situation: When you choose your clothing, always keep in mind the place where you are gonna meet her. Jean/ trousers are appropriate for almost any place because they are very versatile piece of clothing. If the venue is a bit dressier, wearing a long-sleeved collared shirt with trousers is a safe bet.
Choose the shoes: I just don’t mean that you should choose the shoes according to the venue, but also which suits your shape and what you are wearing. A loafer or sneakers will be a perfect choice if you wear jeans. Stick to a pair of dressier shoes for trousers. A nice pair of flip-flops is the best day-time footwear. A pair of leather shoes looks awesome with your light-colored cotton or linen trousers.
Your posture: To carry your dress nicely, you need to maintain a good posture. Stand up straight with your shoulders back, tummy and butt tucked in. This makes you look taller and confident and will enhance the looks of your clothes.
Dress nicely, appropriately, carry it with confidence and your girl will definitely look forward to another dating experience with you!
Tags: jeans, trousers, shoes, posture
Thu, March 27, 2008 9:41 am By James Coolridge
 When it comes to dating, your first impression often becomes your last one. Slip in a good impression about you in her mind so that she thinks to have a second date as well.
Dressing and your etiquettes:
Create an impact wearing a graceful outfit. Don’t under or over dress for the occasion. If you are dining, take care of your table manners.
Be punctual:
Set the time and venue. Don’t test her patience on the very first date.
Bad mouth, worst date:
Make sure that you don’t smell as if you have just eaten loads of onion! She will flee if you have a bad breath.
Be funny:
This is not a serious business meeting. Be a total fun, but don’t end up like a clown!
By acting the right way when you first meet a woman, you will definitely bring across to her that you are special. You will show that you are just now those normal, wussy guys out there who stand no chance at all.
Tags: Conversation, dress, manners
Mon, March 24, 2008 3:28 pm By James Coolridge
 What are the laws of attraction when it comes to dating? Don’t think that laws in legal book will serve the purpose. The laws of attraction are ways and techniques for men to attract the opposite sex. So, ready to get your dose of tips? Read on:
Speak confidently and slowly: Don’t speak like a bullet train! Speak slower and clearly. Maintain a moderately deep voice which will surely convey your confidence.
Learn to carry yourself: Women can feel your nerves. Hold your head up, shoulders back and chest out. Women will subconsciously get attracted to you if you are a manly man.
Eye contact:
Don’t stare at her as if you have not seen women for ages! Gently hold her gaze until she looks away and then throw her a confident smile.
Don’t rush: This is not the last day of your life for a date. Don’t be restless ‘coz confident people use slow gestures and movements.
Practice makes man perfection. Meet women, practice often. If you have mastered, women will become irresistible to you!
Tags: Laws of attraction, confidence
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