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Archive for the ‘cheating’ Category
Sat, June 21, 2008 1:21 pm By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 Infidelity can shake the foundation of even the most solid and firm relationship. It leaves nothing but built up feelings of painful guilt and anger. The relationship ultimately becomes a tale of betrayal. Infidelity is the mere violation of loyalty, which many couples are now doing it casually. It is quiet evident from the increasing percentage of men who are literally torn between two women. Yes, we are talking about man’s infidelity, which in no sense trails behind the infidelity of their female counterpart.
According to a recent study, about 65 percent of men are in another relationship outside of their marriage by the age of forty. The wife on the other hand lives with the imaginations of the husband in relationship with another woman.
So what went wrong with the men? Well, there are a ton of reasons to relate to men showing unfaithfulness. Once the exact problem is identified and understood, the female counterparts can find better solutions to man’s infidelity.
Most men find the mere foundation of their marriage to be very weak. As a result, they try to find better shoulder to lean on, which is probably found outside of their marriage.
However, it will take a lot of time and effort to rescue the marriage. The unfaithfulness shown by the husbands can make it difficult for their wives to trust them all over again. In fact, it will be difficult for both the partners. When it comes to the husband who has shown infidelity, it will be very hard, perhaps the hardest to admit. Well, honesty is the best policy at this point of time. Admitting to your woman that at some point you were attracted to another woman can surely ease some pain. This may bring about shock to your woman at initial stages, but that’s much better than keeping her in the dark about your extra marital affair.
When you succeed in admitting your fault and have decided to sit with her and try to work things out, then this is a green signal for a whole new good start.
After the storm, it is now time to pick up the pieces and construct the relationship once more, and make the foundation of your relationship much stronger.
Tags: Relationship, cheating, affair, woman, Man, catch, spy
Sat, June 21, 2008 1:12 pm By James Coolridge
 Telling your spouse about your affair with another woman may lead to a war of words, or even a break up. Admitting about an affair is quiet risky ‘coz this can put your relationship into a standstill, but dear reader, you have to do it, with courage. Before taking the step, there are three things to consider.
Take the ethical dimension first. This may be subdivided into two divisions- the teleological viewpoint and the deontological viewpoint. The former is based on what is best in terms of ultimate consequences of an act whereas the latter is based on a conclusion that “right is right and wrong is wrong”. If you have a teleological viewpoint, you may feel that it is best not to mention about your affair to your spouse ‘coz you may feel that it is better off that way. On the other hand, if you have a deontological viewpoint, you may end up in admitting your affair to your spouse ‘coz you will feel that right is right and wrong is, indeed, wrong.
Revealing about your affair to your spouse may lead to an immediate break-up. She may feel that the situation has gone beyond control. Hence, the social dimension- your kids, your extended families- should be considered before confessing the affair to your spouse. You should think about the consequences that the bad news may have in your kids, the rest of your family members, and most importantly, your marital status.
Now let us come to the psychological dimension. Consider this- what was the basic need for an extra marital affair? Ask yourself the reasons for what you have done. Was it out of lack of love, understanding, care and mutual respect? Have you fallen out of love for your partner? Think it over…
Tags: Relationship, cheating, affair, woman, Man, catch, spy
Fri, June 20, 2008 8:49 am By James Coolridge
 Cheating is unacceptable in any relationship. It is one of the worst things that you can do any relationship. No matter you are caught cheating your partner or not, cheating involuntarily puts a big question mark on your conscience and your mere character. Even it is the other way around, cheating is not justified. Here are a few telltale signs of cheating in a relationship.
• Your partner pays more attention: Your partner pays extra attention to your needs than usual. Don’t mistake it as her love for you. This may be due to the guilt that the cheater experiences in the early stages of her affair. As the extra marital affair reaches its climax, her attention to your needs diminishes. As result, you will be paid little or no attention.
• Your partner becomes moody: Fluctuations in the mood is one of the major telltale signs of cheating in a relationship. Your partner may feel depressed, moody and frustrated when she is around you. She may feel very upbeat and excited when she is away from you.
• Minor issues give way to major fights: Your partner may pick up petty issues and build up into a major fight. This gives them a reason to get mad and storm out of the house to meet the other lover. Most of the cheaters have mixed emotions at this stage of cheating.
• Excessive shopping: She may love shopping around, but if she starts buying frequent gifts, you have to be alert. The guilt in her drives her to purchase gifts for you. It is yet another “kill-the-guilt” formula applied by the cheaters. This makes them feel better from inside.
• Less or no communication: She may now feel that she is emotionally detached from you and stops communicating with you. She may also become colder towards your feelings.
Tags: Love, Relationship, cheating, partner
Thu, May 29, 2008 12:03 pm By James Coolridge
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. It is perhaps the supreme social institution of civilization. It deserves the due respect. The unforgivable ‘crime’ done to this prestigious relationship is infidelity. There are many reasons to relate to spouses cheating on the other half. The person cheating may be looking for something, which is not offered to them in their married life. They may even cheat on their partners for revenge purposes.
We used to wonder when we heard of a women cheating on. Nowadays it doesn’t even raise an eyebrow because of the alarming rate of female infidelity. A lot of credit goes to the technological advancement, which has given way to increasing cheating instances. Nowadays cheating husbands and wives are finding refuge in cyberspace facilities and they effortlessly hook up with a mate via the dating sites. The cheating partners are finding these dating sites as the ultimate remedy for all their loneliness and bitterness in their marriage life.
The main reason behind infidelity is found to be feeling of vulnerability in the modern society. A man feels that a professional woman is intimidating and not compliant at all. The tensions in such relationship are intensified. As a result, the man decides to cheat on his wife and goes with a person he feels more comfortable. He finds someone and somewhere else where he feels superior.
Sex is another key issue in tumbling relationships. Cheating partners don’t get sexually satisfied in their marriage.
Tags: Intimacy, cheating, sexual, infidelity
Tue, May 27, 2008 11:55 am By James Coolridge
 Cheating in any relationship is not at all acceptable. But, what about espionage in a relationship, particularly a commitment like marriage? What will be your reaction if one fine day you discover that your partner is behaving like espionage, trying to trace out your actions? You will be shocked, isn’t it? We were also flabbergasted by a recent report about espionage in the home. Read on.
The Oxford University reveals a fact that at least 1 in every 5 people in relationships has the tendency to read their partners e-mails, text messages and 1 in 10 people are involved in checking up on the browsing history to check that their partner is not cheating. So here raises the question-, “why is the trust, which is considered to be the foundation of a relationship, depleting?”
Let’s face it- trust is lacking everywhere, even in our circle of friends and our own colleagues. The element of trust missing in marital relationships is perhaps a result of many affairs, splits in the relationships. They have rather become the bitter truth of life.
There are many possibilities for this kind of attitude in people. One of the possible causes is that the partners are finding someone better and more exciting.
When we analyze the root-causes for such behaviour, we have to reveal out the truth in relationships. When two people decide to get together, most don’t actually are not able to figure-out why they have chosen that person to be with for the rest of their lives. They perhaps choose partners that make them feel good at that moment in time. As time passes, many of these partners realize that the partner that they have chosen are not actually able to fulfil their long-term needs. As a result, they start to feel bad and look for ways to feel good. Many among them then try to find out whether their partner is cheating them. Hence, the spouse chooses to follow ways of spying. However, we should realize that the cost is huge. It is really, really huge.
Tags: cheating, partner, spy, home, experience, espionage
Tue, May 13, 2008 1:14 pm By James Coolridge
 Is your lady showing signs of unusual behavior? Is she trying to conceal a huge secret? Well, beware, ‘coz your spouse or girlfriend (or whatever you want to call her) may be cheating you! Learn to pick up the hints. Here are some of the signs which indicate that your partner is cheating you.
Sign 1# A drastic change:
Your partner may show unusual behavior like being more loving than usual or buying you little gifts. Look for sudden changes like trying extremely hard to please you by making your favorite meals every evening. Another way of pulling herself away from the relationship is unplanned and last minute business trips and having more work meetings.
Sign 2 # Change in the approach to sex:
Sex life can be affected if your partner is cheating on you. She may either want to indulge into trying new positions, more dominant in the bedroom or may even reduce the frequency of sex which may ultimately become a full-stop! Watch out for this trait ‘coz she could be getting it from someone else.
Sign 3# Change in her appearance:
Consider this- your partner is now putting more effort into her appearance, shopping every now and then, buying more new clothes than in usual. There may be a drastic change in her dressing pattern.
Sign 4# Change in her behavior:
If she’s cheating, she won’t feel the need to be nice to you anymore. Think about it; she has someone else on the side, why should she worry about you? She picks on you in front of your friends. Something’s probably up, as couples should have each other’s backs in public.
Sign 5# Hooked to her cell phone:
Take a look at your partner’s cell phone and look at the calls made and received. Look to see if there are any patterns such as calls made as soon as they leave for work or just before they get in from work.
These were some of the five signs of cheating. Pick them up and think about taking action.
Tags: cell phone, spouse, dressing, behavior
Mon, May 12, 2008 1:13 pm By James Coolridge
 Sometimes in a relationship, it can get very doubting as to whether or not your lover is faithful to you. This could be caused by unusual times that they are occupied away from the house without you or simply a major change in their attitude. You should never be blind to the situation of your spouse cheating on you with somebody else. For this reason, I am going to share some tips to catch a cheating spouse.
Cheating is a very critical situation in any relationship. It is definitely not the right way to go about a relationship in which you are supposed to care for the other significant one involved. Discovering a spouse that is cheating can easily break the relationship or make it even stronger. This all depends upon the love for one another.
If you already have suspicions that your lover is being unfaithful to you, the best thing to do is keep quite about it. It is crucial to keep it hushed when you trying to catch a cheating spouse. Under any circumstances, do not give your spouse any reason to have suspicions that you even have the slightest clue about them cheating on you. You never want to make an accusation unless you have sufficient proof to back you up.
If you were known to be very trusting of your partner, you should be more observant and attentive about your spouse’s activities. The littlest things should be looked into carefully. This can include the numerous wrong numbers as well as phone conversations that are taken in private.
You should start being cautious when your spouse starts having to go on trips without you. Be sure to check their pockets for notes written on little pieces of paper. Anything that you can find out about what they are doing will help you gather as much information as possible about what is currently going on in their life.
Just by watching your spouse’s attitude, you can learn a lot. If they become more irritable and want to fight more often, this could be their way of countering the guilty feelings that they have for cheating on you. A spouse who is cheating can ignore their responsibilities that they have to the other spouse as well as the children. It’s not the prettiest sight, especially when both of you are innocent.
It is hard to do what it takes in order to catch a cheating spouse. After all, you don’t even want to find out that they are really cheating on you with someone else. Once you find out that they are cheating, it can be emotionally disturbing since there is always the chance that this discovery could break up the relationship with your significant other. Keep in mind, it is important to find out if they are cheating, nobody wants to be left in the dark on a situation like this. Remember to keep a low profile when you are trying to catch a cheating spouse until you have enough proof to provide them with when you let them know you aren’t blind to what is going on.
Tags: Relationship, cheating, affair, woman, Man, catch, spy
Sun, May 11, 2008 1:11 pm By James Coolridge
 If you suspect your spouse might be cheating, there are many, many ways to go about finding them out and collecting a range of evidence. One of the most efficient, however, might be to hire a private investigator. For a relatively small amount of money, perhaps $800 to $1000 and some good timing, you can have peace of mind and know once and for all about your partner’s suspected infidelity.
Private investigators aren’t what popular culture has made them out to be. They aren’t like the film noir private eyes, or like Magnum, P.I. Private Investigators are licensed professionals, usually (and hopefully) with a background in criminology and an understanding of investigative techniques. The favourite tool of a private investigator isn’t a gun, it’s a camera.
Make sure that the private investigator that you choose is licensed. Most states require that those engaging in “investigations” and those calling themselves “investigators” are licensed. A copy of this document should be easily available for your perusal when you ask for it…and always ask for it! Some services offered through online companies, such as credit checks, criminal record checks, and background checks, qualify as “information brokerages” but are not private investigators and are therefore not licensed. This creates a ripe market for disreputable companies and scam artists. It’s best to go with a licensed investigator instead.
Make sure you sign a contract. Like any service that is exchanged for money, private investigation is a business, and a legitimate one. Private investigators don’t lurk in the shadows or gray areas of legality - they are business people. Any P.I. refusing to draw up a contract should not be worked with.
Ask about experience. Previous investigative experience is essential to a successful investigation, particularly with an issue as sensitive as spousal infidelity. Not only are you paying for the investigator’s time (which may be squandered if they are inexperienced), you are paying for confidentiality. An inexperienced investigator may accidentally give away the fact that he is following your spouse, and then you may never know the truth. Often, people go into the field of private investigation through a quick 2-month certification course. Ask about you P.I.’s background and career history.
Make sure your investigator is insured. When you hire a private investigator, that individual and representatives of his company, become your agents. Legally, anything they do in your service is your responsibility. If, in the course of your contracted investigation, the P.I. inflicts damage on property or person, causes harm to be done - even gets in a car accident - it can fall on your shoulders. Make sure that you discuss this eventuality with the investigator before any action is taken, make sure that it’s included in the contract, and make sure that the agency has insurance to cover any damages that may occur.
Tags: cheating, wife, catch, private, investigator
Sat, May 10, 2008 1:11 pm By James Coolridge
 Is your lady showing signs of unusual behavior? Is she trying to conceal a huge secret? Well, beware, ‘coz your spouse or girlfriend (or whatever you want to call her) may be cheating you! Learn to pick up the hints. Here are some of the signs which indicate that your partner is cheating you.
Sign 1# A drastic change:
Your partner may show unusual behavior like being more loving than usual or buying you little gifts. Look for sudden changes like trying extremely hard to please you by making your favorite meals every evening. Another way of pulling herself away from the relationship is unplanned and last minute business trips and having more work meetings.
Sign 2 # Change in the approach to sex:
Sex life can be affected if your partner is cheating on you. She may either want to indulge into trying new positions, more dominant in the bedroom or may even reduce the frequency of sex which may ultimately become a full-stop! Watch out for this trait ‘coz she could be getting it from someone else.
Sign 3# Change in her appearance:
Consider this- your partner is now putting more effort into her appearance, shopping every now and then, buying more new clothes than in usual. There may be a drastic change in her dressing pattern.
Sign 4# Change in her behavior:
If she’s cheating, she won’t feel the need to be nice to you anymore. Think about it; she has someone else on the side, why should she worry about you? She picks on you in front of your friends. Something’s probably up, as couples should have each other’s backs in public.
Sign 5# Hooked to her cell phone:
Take a look at your partner’s cell phone and look at the calls made and received. Look to see if there are any patterns such as calls made as soon as they leave for work or just before they get in from work.
These were some of the five signs of cheating. Pick them up and think about taking action.
Tags: cell phone, spouse, dressing, behavior
Wed, April 2, 2008 12:20 pm By James Coolridge
 You have an amazing gal. So amazing, that she attracts packs of lusting men towards her. All of them trying to grab her attention or worse trying to coax her out of her clothes! They could be just platonic friends. Or they could be intruders, plagues bent on weakening and circumventing you. What to do?
Here are few situations when you could tell that she’s cheating on you or has her newly found interest:
1. You had a hint of a men’s cologne from her that you don’t use!
2. She is strangely not bothered about you and isn’t critical about you.
3. She lied to about something and you found out.
4. Your sex life…err…wait a minute, what sex life?
5. She is on a grooming and shopping spree. She has started to take care of her looks too much.
6. She works longer hours- meeting, projects, deadlines and new boy friend… may be!
7. She can’t stop talking about this new colleague.
8. You hardly get to talk to her family. She doesn’t talk about them to you either.
9. She has become defensive and paranoid.
10. She keeps comparing you with this “super-human” friend of hers.
Tags: Girlfriend, cheating, affair
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