Infidelity can shake the foundation of even the most solid and firm relationship. It leaves nothing but built up feelings of painful guilt and anger. The relationship ultimately becomes a tale of betrayal. Infidelity is the mere violation of loyalty, which many couples are now doing it casually. It is quiet evident from the increasing percentage of men who are literally torn between two women. Yes, we are talking about man’s infidelity, which in no sense trails behind the infidelity of their female counterpart.

According to a recent study, about 65 percent of men are in another relationship outside of their marriage by the age of forty. The wife on the other hand lives with the imaginations of the husband in relationship with another woman.

So what went wrong with the men? Well, there are a ton of reasons to relate to men showing unfaithfulness. Once the exact problem is identified and understood, the female counterparts can find better solutions to man’s infidelity.

 Most men find the mere foundation of their marriage to be very weak. As a result, they try to find better shoulder to lean on, which is probably found outside of their marriage.

However, it will take a lot of time and effort to rescue the marriage. The unfaithfulness shown by the husbands can make it difficult for their wives to trust them all over again. In fact, it will be difficult for both the partners. When it comes to the husband who has shown infidelity, it will be very hard, perhaps the hardest to admit. Well, honesty is the best policy at this point of time. Admitting to your woman that at some point you were attracted to another woman can surely ease some pain. This may bring about shock to your woman at initial stages, but that’s much better than keeping her in the dark about your extra marital affair.

When you succeed in admitting your fault and have decided to sit with her and try to work things out, then this is a green signal for a whole new good start.

After the storm, it is now time to pick up the pieces and construct the relationship once more, and make the foundation of your relationship much stronger.

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Telling your spouse about your affair with another woman may lead to a war of words, or even a break up. Admitting about an affair is quiet risky ‘coz this can put your relationship into a standstill, but dear reader, you have to do it, with courage. Before taking the step, there are three things to consider.
Take the ethical dimension first. This may be subdivided into two divisions- the teleological viewpoint and the deontological viewpoint. The former is based on what is best in terms of ultimate consequences of an act whereas the latter is based on a conclusion that “right is right and wrong is wrong”. If you have a teleological viewpoint, you may feel that it is best not to mention about your affair to your spouse ‘coz you may feel that it is better off that way. On the other hand, if you have a deontological viewpoint, you may end up in admitting your affair to your spouse ‘coz you will feel that right is right and wrong is, indeed, wrong.

Revealing about your affair to your spouse may lead to an immediate break-up. She may feel that the situation has gone beyond control. Hence, the social dimension- your kids, your extended families- should be considered before confessing the affair to your spouse. You should think about the consequences that the bad news may have in your kids, the rest of your family members, and most importantly, your marital status.

Now let us come to the psychological dimension. Consider this- what was the basic need for an extra marital affair? Ask yourself the reasons for what you have done. Was it out of lack of love, understanding, care and mutual respect? Have you fallen out of love for your partner? Think it over…

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