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Thu, October 30, 2008 7:31 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 Understanding women is mostly impossible task for a man .though most women seem open about what they are sense, they also hide things from time-to-time if they feel it may be too unkind to the man in their life. This is often the case when a couple is heading towards a split. There are some signs she wants to break up with you that you need to be aware of earlier than it’s too late.
The most obvious symbol she wants to split up with you is if she gives excuses to not spend time with you. All relationships have ups and downs to them. You and your girlfriend may have gone through times where you couldn’t get enough of each other. If things are different now try figure out what brought the change, she may also say she’s tired or has made plans with friends. If she’s spending less time with you, that’s a sign that she’s wandering away.
One more sign that she wants to break up with you is her approach towards you. If she’s not as much patient and seems on the edge of an argument with you, that’s a signal that she’s not as sensitively invested in the relationship. You may think she’s bad-tempered and attribute her bad mood to something or somebody else. There’s a very good chance that she’s stressed with her feelings for you and it’s manifesting itself this way. Some women even go to the extreme of being difficult on purpose with the hope that their boyfriend will be the one to break up with them.
Don’t tempt destiny and try to get her back in your life on your own. Most men don’t realize that one incorrect move can mean the end of any possibility of a reunion with their ex. There is a certain way to rekindle the romance between you two. If you love her, find out now how to keep her.
1. Send her an exclusive gift at work. Get a piece of paper and some crayons. Draw a bright childish picture with a smiley sun and two stick figures hand in hand. Add chits with your two names pointing to them. Write ‘I Love You’ inside a heart. Next get a large formal envelope. Place your drawing inside and type up a formal address label of your partner’s workplace, such as:
2 water. On a bright sunny day, buy two large water pistols and take them to the beach or pool with you. Take them out and throw one to your girlfriend and then have a huge water fight.
3. Bring back childhood memories. Contact your girl’s family and ask if there was anything she always hunted when she was a little girl. For example, if she always wanted a porcelain toy, buy one for her birthday. She will not only be grateful for the gift, but also the truth that you were caring enough to find out what she always sought.
4. Become kids again. If you are walking by a park, visit the swings and give her a ride.
5. Organize a backyard picnic on a warm summer’s night. Take out a spreadsheet on the ground and get together some snacks, chocolates and champagne. Lie down on the blanket with your partner and gaze up at the stars together.
6. Show you’re thankful to your partner. Leave a long-stem rose where your girl would find it, with a tag on it saying: “Thank you for being in my life.”
7. Spice up your lovemaking. Probably the most thoughtful way to rekindle the romance in your bond is to spice up your lovemaking. Astonish your partner with a little present after you make love or any other day, try a new pose, learn to give your partner a sensual massage before or after, or just spend some time staring into each other’s eyes and caressing their nude skin before building love.
Many people underestimate the power these little things have on a relationship. If things are uneven in your relationship don’t wait for your significant other to do something. Take action and get back the loosing love. Make the first step towards mending your partnership. It’s all about passionate love. Show it.
Tags: understanding signals, rekindle the losing romance
Sat, August 23, 2008 5:58 am By James Coolridge
 Feelings of regret or guilt over a less-than-perfect past can sabotage our efforts to create a loving, romantic relationship and a more satisfying life. Whether its failed relationships, embarrassing acts, or unromantic attitudes, your past can sometimes seem insurmountable of you’ve decided to change your life for the better. Just because you have done bad things in the past doesn’t mean you can’t become a good person. And one of the most effective ways to remake yourself into a more loving, positive person is to find the same kind of person to share your life with.
To start a relationship is easy but to maintain it and succeed is another thing. It calls for a lot of sacrifice and devotion. It’s normal and usual for a relationship to break but the worst part of it comes when the parties involved are too hurt and left with some painful wounds to nurse. The healing process of a break-up may differ so much depending on different people and the kind of relationship that existed. You must know how to overcome a painful relationship or break-up.
Here are some tips
1. You must accept the fact that you broke up. You might be in a state of denial but push yourself to appreciate the fact that you are not together. Try to make merry and rejoice even when things seems to be moving in the wrong direction.
2. Try to avoid pressures that may force you into a state of depression.
3. Make sure that you are always in the company of your friends to avoid spending time alone which may make your mind to flashback unto the old memories of your past relationship.
4. Repeatedly affirm yourself and internalize the belief that you want to get over the person you are breaking up with.
5. Do not hold back to the past rather start a fresh. A break up is not a reason enough as to why you should live a not fulfilling life.
If you keep on letting the past keep on hunting you, peace will be very elusive in your life. Never waste your time crying over a break-up, they either just worsen the situation or make you feel your not worthy for another relationship. Break-ups can really decrease your confidence and self esteem and you might feel isolated and very lonely but if you are determined and have a strong will to forget your past no one can stop you. It should just come from within.
Tags: Love, break up, PAIN
Sat, July 19, 2008 10:01 am By Jeff Dwelle
 A legal divorce may give couples a short term relief from a tough and unbearable relationship. But on a long term basis, divorce is a trauma. It is more painful and traumatic when couples start to feel the gap in their life and value the importance of their ex.
There may be several reasons for couples opting for divorce. We have tried to enlist some of possible reasons for couples going for this last resort.
Dissatisfaction: Dissatisfaction in a relationship is one of the main causes behind divorce. This may be either physical or mental dissatisfaction. But in most of the cases, a physical dissatisfaction leads to divorce. A couple decides to split when either of them starts thinking that the other half is not living upto their expectations or he/she is a total mismatch for him/her.
Extra marital affair: The wife or husband may have an extra marital affair. He/she may then start comparing their spouse with current partner and find that it will is better to discontinue the existing relationship and start their life with a new partner.
Communication gap: We should accept the fact that the world is mad behind money and other materialistic things. When people go crazy behind earning money, they don’t find time to spend with spouse. This widens the gaps between them. This lack of communication leads to dissatisfaction in emotional as well as physical relations and lessens the interest in spouse.
Apart from these, there are financial problems, sense of insecurity in relations that contribute to the increasing divorce cases. It is sad that people often forget that these problems are not incurable. They can be solved on time to avoid the after-effects of a divorce.
Tags: divorce, work, Children, busy, stress
Tue, July 8, 2008 12:28 pm By James Coolridge
 Break ups can be devastating and in truth it does not matter if you are the dumper or the one being dumped. It hurts like hell and sometimes these break ups can also lead to a break downs. In such situations it becomes essential for you to take control of the situation and not give into the depression.
Here are some ways that will help you in controlling the situation:
Don’t ever play the blame game- Blaming each other will not help or mend the relationship. Take responsibility for the part you played on the relationship, both for its success and for its failure, but also don’t take all the blame.
Don’t be alone – it is essential that you surround yourself with family or friends initially. Call your friends and make plans or just join a group for new hobbies. Distract yourself with movies, group sports, classes or a favorite CD just get your mind off her.
Give yourself time to heal- Its okay to grieve for the lost love, even if it means wallowing in self-pity for a while. It’s okay to be angry and vent out your anger, believe me your friends will understand.
Move on – okay so you have had time to heal, now move on just don’t stay in the mourning phase. Take a positive attitude and start dating again. If you’re not very comfortable with dating as yet go for a double date.
Don’t force a new relationship- I know it sounds like contrary advice but by dating I mean light enjoyable time. You don’t have to start a relationship with every gal you meet. In-between relationships may seem like a terrific way to avoid loneliness but this kind of relationship will not mend your heart nor will it replace your other relationship.
Tags: Relationship, emotions, Break-ups, Depression, dumped, break-downs
Mon, June 30, 2008 10:01 am By Roanlad Parrish
 Relationship lacking creativity and satisfaction generates contempt. The couples who are not satisfied of each other try to find ways to get rid of each other. Divorce becomes the verdict for such relationship. Why do divorce cases exist more than marriages? I would have to dedicate a single article to find out the reasons of increasing divorce cases. In this article, I would rather think in a different way- how to avoid a split? How to ensure that both of you are satisfied with each other and are well familiar with each other? Read on.
• Plan trips to come closer to your spouse: Take every activity as an opportunity to come closer to your spouse. Take her to your business trips. Plan frequent weekend getaways. Visit the places where both of you have never been to. Treasure hunts with your spouse like auctions, antique shops, garage sales, church rummage sales can help you come closer to each other.
• Plan with your spouse: Sit with your spouse at the beginning of each month and review your calendars. Plan your month’s appointments together. Your relationship commitments should never take a back seat. Hence, make all of your plans such that outings with your spouse are never delayed or missed.
• Go shopping with her: Exchanging gifts is always appreciated in a relationship. Go shopping together and find out something for her. She may also find something for you. Gift her favorite book or music CD. Have her to do the same for you. Apply the same concept to other specialty stores as well. Try to find out the “couples’s items” in the specialty stores. Matching bicycles, mobile phones, coffee mugs, rocking chairs can be really enjoyed together.
This way, you can save your marriage. Let divorce be the last resort, not the first one.
Tags: Love, Relationship, Marriage, divorce
Tue, May 27, 2008 12:10 pm By James Coolridge
 Walking out of the heartache after a break up is like left all alone to walk through a dense jungle full of thorns, stones, and a heck of ruthless situations. It is incredibly hard to loose someone important in your life. Your life suddenly comes to a standstill, no clue about the future. You cry, you are depressed and become clueless about how you are going to live without her. You may even wish the earth would open you up and swallow you whole.
We have seen people gulping countless pegs all the day long and smoking as much cigs as possible. We have also come across the trying-to-recover-from-break-up dudes, eating tremendously or not eating at all! While others find some relief on their co-worker’s shoulders hoping that they can get out of this mess. So how many of you think all these ways are really gonna help you to beat the agony?
Well, the answer to the above question is a bit tricky as these are considered to be the “quick fixes” to break ups. However, we don’t really vote for the above ways to beat the stress, depression (or whatever you say), caused by a break up.
The best way that we can suggest you is to spend good time with your close friends and acquaintances. Hang out with your friends; watch a few comedy flicks. What about a bike ride through the countryside?
Revive your family relationships. Try to get some counsel from your elderly family members about trouble relationships and how they managed to recover from the twists and turns. It will be helpful for you to deviate your self from whatever worst experience you had in the past.
Tags: break up, stages, cope
Fri, May 23, 2008 12:11 pm By James Coolridge
 We all know that change is the law of nature. However, sudden changes in our lives are sometimes difficult to accept. I am talking about break-up and the signs of a break-up. Yes, even in your nightmare you would not like to imagine a break up with your girl, especially when you are passionate about her. If you find the following behavioural changes in your partner, then dude, keep your fingers crossed, ‘coz your relationship is at risk of a bitter break up! Read on.
Conflicts:
Constructive conflicts are healthy for a relationship. But, if you note that your significant other has become quarrelsome over insignificant issues, then this is a warning sign that she is looking for a break up.
Distance:
Small fights may put you at an arm’s length from her. Some moments of distractions are obvious in a relationship. However, when your partner is in a constant state of unavailability, she may be setting her mind for a break up.
Uninterested in sex:
You both had some unforgettable moments in the bed and now, you find that she is no more interested in having sex with you. Since this is considered an action of intimacy, your girl may not like to engage herself in such an act, as her interests have flown elsewhere.
She becomes the worst critic:
I don’t say that criticism never finds place in a relationship. You may criticize each other as to bring some behavioural changes and strengthen the relationship. But, she if becomes less tolerant of almost everything; don’t be surprised, as constant criticism is a telltale sign of a break up.
Tags: Relationship, cheating, issues, past, critical
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