Few years ago, office romance was taboo. They often resulted in dismissal for those unfortunate enough to get caught. But things are not the same. Let us have a reality check. Consider fact number one: we spend almost half of our waking hours at work. Fact number two: we all are sexual creatures who find it difficult to live without companions. Fact number three: If we are giving exactly what the company wants from us professionally, we won’t hesitate to engage ourselves in office romance.

The good news is that many companies today realize and even support this! Others won’t support it, but they do acknowledge and even tolerate it in silence. Of course, still there are those orthodox rulebook organizations out there.

If you are engaged in an office romance, or thinking about getting involved in one, here are a few things to help you negotiate the path with grace and composure.

1. Personal communication prohibited!: No matter how tempting it might be to jot send a quick email about meeting after work, or an instant message to just say ‘hi’, DON’T! Keep the personal for after work.

2. Be friendly, but professional when you are at work:  You don’t want to act stiff or cold, do you? So, deal the business of the day with her in a friendly and cordial way.

3. Be sensitive to co-workers: Of course, everyone in the office knows about you and your “friend,” so you have to go out of your way to make your relationship appear picture perfect relative to the business at hand. In other words, even though they know, behave in such a way as they forget, or it just isn’t an issue, which it shouldn’t be.

4. Don’t go off alone for coffee or lunch breaks: We know that if you weren’t working together you’d have lunch all the time. Again, you have to think about the working environment and your co-workers and the limitation of having your relationship in everyone’s face every day.

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Fights can be constructive in your relationship. But, when it reaches its extreme, you will actually have to pay the price for these fights. Hence, putting an end to the war is very important. Here are few ways to prevent or stop a fight which may pose a threat to the existence of your relationship.

Stop Blaming: A small fight turns into a war of words when you start blaming each other. Before pinpointing your partner to make her feel guilty, just think about the good things the person has done for you so far. Think about the ways in which she has been very kind to you. Take a break from blame for the time being. If at all she is at fault, don’t blame her. Instead, look for the ways in which you can put an end to the war ‘coz blaming really hurts.

Realize The Price You Are Paying For These Fights: You will continue fighting unless you pay the price for these fights. Make a note of the possible consequences of these fights on your relationship and most importantly, on your body and mind. Then ask yourself- “Is the fight really needed?” “Why shouldn’t I stop this?”

Build self-worth: This is perhaps the best way to defend your anger. Feel good about yourself. Realize your self-worth. This will automatically bring your anger down.

Forgiveness and love will fill your life if you have the courage to let go of anger. If you are successful enough to let go off anger, you will be able to face your world in its nicest way. You will then notice that the world around you is really wonderful!

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