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Tue, August 19, 2008 11:09 am By James Coolridge  Printer friendly version
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 You often see beautiful damsel at the grocery store. After some days you see that it has gotten to your nerves and you just have to talk to her. This woman seems quite interesting and not a high maintenance type so you think that dating her and making her your own will be an easy task. Well, you talk to her but what you learn about her may leave you in a flux. She is a single mother! So if you think you can easily have her in your kitty, you are very wrong for it is a real challenge to have such a female affirms to you. If you are still persistent, be ready for some hard work.
Unfortunate but true that some men have stereotype single mom under one pile. What you should not forget is that women who have been burned once are unlikely to be burned twice if they are wise enough. And so they being available or open for a relationship at a whim of fancy of a guy they find to be just another one among many others, is just out of question.
All this is natural just for their sake as well as for their kid’s sake. But even then if you are aiming to date her then your intention should be clear. So what you need to do is make a checklist of yourself and be honest with your intention. Let m tell you that if your intention is to have fun then you have entered the wrong circuit. It is best that you find yourself someone else who wanting the same thing.
At one point in time, it was once considered a bad idea to date a single mom but fortunately today it is just a normal thing. To be honest, there are several things you need to consider when dating a single mother so that you do not regret anything in the long run. Once you are sure of yourself, only then get into trying such a thing. It calls for having lots of patience and lots of compassion.
You should know that the wants and needs of career women are completely different from the needs of single mom. Single mom requires security and warmth both for herself and for her kid. If you think you can give it to them go ahead but please do not play with their emotion.
Tags: single mom, kitty, career women
Mon, August 18, 2008 10:55 am By James Coolridge
 Have you ever found yourself in a situation when you see a woman on the street and are hit with the desire of asking her out? I’m sure you must have. There are times when you see someone really beautiful or attractive passing you by on the street and you feel to an immediate need to talk to her, to know her more. But most often than not, you just let go such opportunities because you are not able to gather the confidence and go up to her or just fall short of words, not knowing what to say and how to say. There are a hundred things that may run into your mind then. How would she react? What will she think about you? Will she shout on you or get annoyed, making a public scene out of it. You just don’t know. Well, the good news is finally in. I have brought for you some tips that will help you handle these situations better.
Okay, let me put it in the form of an anecdote for you. This will help you understand better and make the situation more practical to be able to relate to. Take it as if it has been my own personal experience though there have not been once but many a times when I have approached attractive girls on the street and my tricks worked on them like a charm.
Alright, here I go!
I saw this beautiful girl on the street that almost looked like a model, very attractive with a sparkle in her eye. I approached her and said hi and she also in the same breeze said the same as if she is trying to only brush past me. And just before the moment could get over, I said, “Why? My good looks really scare you that badly? “(I knew I was just average looking). This stopped her in her tracks and she actually came back and was like “What did you say “I repeated, “Did my good looks really scare you away?”. What followed next told me that the nut had already been cracked. She smiled. She was like “I guess that was it, do you want to grab a table and talk a bit?”
The next 20 minutes were absolute bliss. We talked but then exactly after these 20 minutes, I looked at my watch and told her that I had to get going. She said “But we just started”.. Then I asked her about her e-mail address to which she said that we doesn’t have one. Then I told her that if she would give me her number, I would call her three times everyday. Well, it certainly intended to do what I saw on her lips. Her smile. She laughed and gave it to me and I said will I be able to get a hold of you on this number? She said yes and even showed me her cell phone number. So with this I rushed, leaving her speechless.
So we see that it is after all not that tough a thing to do if you develop the gift of the gab and know what to say at the right moment. Remember humor is a very important part of this game so keep yourself brushed with wit at all times. Nothing works better than that on girls!
Tags: girl, tricks, opportunities
Sun, August 17, 2008 10:50 am By James Coolridge
 Dating is not just taking any girl out for a spree. If you really want to have the girl stay with you for life, make sure you don’t miss upon some essentials because even if you slip a bit, you can end up in a flux which you certainly wouldn’t want to fall into, I’m sure!
When asking a girl out for a date, you may face different situations most unexpectedly. Before you lose you temper or get muddled up in thinking what to say and what not, be prepared to anticipate the unknown. How? Well, by read what we have for you written below. These are some common scenarios that one may confront on regular days while talking to their dates. It could be while asking them out for dinner, a moment when she has unexpectedly become annoyed or said something to you that might never have expected.
Let’s consider a situation first!
Suppose you are in a nightclub. Asking your girl to dance with you when she has just met with her group of old friends, will receive a negative response even if she likes the look of you. Learn to read the signals of the situation in a positive way. So asking a girl to dance at midnight when the DJ is about to play the last song will usually get you nowhere unless both she and you are desperate and really want to have some fun.
Therefore while being flexible and semi available, know your subject in advance and work out when she is most likely to be available if possible. If your timing is right, you could easily get lots of positive responses that will lead on to something more special.
• Always try to understand when a woman has good reason to say no
• Try to be a bit flexible and offer an alternative
• Don’t argue with her if she says no -move on
• You should always sound busy
• Life’s strange. You should learn to accept that some people you will meet at the wrong time
• Choose a weeknight for the first date if you can manage
• Never be scared of asking. It will only make you confident.
• Just don’t get annoyed if she says no. Smile!
• Always try and know as much about your date’s circumstances in advance only if she is known to you already
• Try not asking her out when she is clearly busy or stressed or unhappy or not well
These tips have already helped many to smoothen their dates and play their parts to the best of their abilities. Hope it does for you!
Tags: Date, dance, woman
Sat, August 16, 2008 10:39 am By James Coolridge
 If you want your date to culminate in a long-term relationship, its time you learn some tricks that’ll help your girl know you better, most importantly like you and leave her wanting to know more about you. But most often than not, we often find people committing some silly mistakes that washes away all the hard work they’ve delved in, so far. So here we bring some essential dating tips that’ll help you achieve this with absolute ease!
Never expect date on the first date!
Men should never take some things for granted. Women are sensitive creatures and if you intend to show your machismo by going overboard in asking her to have sex with you the very first day of your date, let me warn you, you are in for a big trouble Sir. The thumb rule is never expecting sex on the first date. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing more good than being a patient man. If you really like her, you are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls and screwing it all up.
Mannerism reign!
If you are in for a long-lasting relationship, then it time for you to sort out your educational knowledge of manners, courtesy and chivalry. A woman loves being treated well, particularly with respect and veneration. If you are adept in using coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness, drop them all like hot bricks and think of yourself as a man with new skin. Well, if you are aiming high, then you should know how to eat in a top restaurant and about some flowers in particular. Courtesies like opening a door for a woman, letting her go first and helping her with her seat pay off really well. It is good to listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. It is imperative for you to show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.
Listen!
If you are a chatter box, it is time to start listening and stop talking. It is important for you to keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer also. This will make her bored because as much as you like to speak so much, she also wants to talk about you. She Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Well, this may not come as a good news to you but women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her by the bucketful.
So here we are! Building a relationship with women is a beautiful process. It is like extending yourself to know someone who is meant to complete you as a person. So make the most of it and you’ll realize that the world was never this charming before!
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Fri, August 15, 2008 10:32 am By James Coolridge
 Do you recall the last time you shared a romantic moment with your spouse? When was it that his kiss turned you to jelly? Has his embraces turned your world up side down in the recent past?
The answers to these questions can very well decide how romantic your relationship is. We all agree that all healthy and successful relationships are, and must be based upon a strong romantic foundation. If there is no real foundation in a relationship, then it is based upon superficial circumstances that eventually chip away and cease as a meaningless and empty romance.
Here are a few tips that will re introduce romance in your dull and boring life.
Break the shackles of monotony.
Many people associate the beginning of a relationship with romance and excitement because everything is new. But after the relationship is authenticated we settle into a routine, and nothing feels new anymore. To be romantic and to reintroduce the excitement that was typical of the relationship when it was budding, do something different, something that your partner wouldn’t expect.
Greet each other with a kiss.
Grab your partner and give him or her passionate kiss every opportunity you get. This physical show of your love will go a long way in reinforcing the romance in your life.
Write love letters to one another.
Conceal little love notes around the house in shoes, wallet or purse, car, favorite coffee mug, or coat pocket. A note pasted to the bathroom mirror with the words, “You are my morning sunshine” or a sexy message expressing what you’d like to do to your spouse when you get home from work are not only romantic but also always cherished. They help the spouse feel loved, and they instigate anticipation of your return.
Give a surprise to your spouse.
Gifts, such as flowers, balloons or theater tickets show your spouse that you do these sorts of things simply because you’re thinking of him or her and not out of compulsion. However, this is in addition to the birthday and/or anniversary card.
Romantic relationships don’t build at a whim. You need to nurture it with love and tender moments. Practice romance every day. To tell you the truth, sometimes the most romantic moments are simple, spontaneous and free. There are millions of methods to say “I love you” and express it in boundless ways. Make it a point to find a new ways and means to be romantic every day.
Tags: Dating, Love, Relationship, romance, kiss, men, love letters
Thu, August 14, 2008 10:09 am By James Coolridge
 Relationships are not always smooth sailing. They have their ups and downs. While these “ups” keep the reason to be in the relationship strong, it is the “downs” that add spice to the relationship. It is natural and healthy sometimes to have a few conflicts. Because making up with your spouse can make you come closer.
Now the question is how to make up after a spat before they cause any real damage. Fortunately, there are several different ways of accomplishing this.
1. Take time to cool off- Right after you get into a fight, your first impulse should be to run off and cool down before you make up. This will help you to not only cool down but also see things in the right perspective. Being level headed while thinking of the fight will surely help you to make up fast.
2. Remember your love for each other- Even if you’re really angry with the one you love, always remember that you do love him or her. Too many relationships have taken a turn for the worse because the fights left one or the other feeling like the love between them had been lost. It’s vital that both of you remember what brought you together and why you love each other, even if you don’t particularly like each other at the moment.
3. Take Responsibility- It does take two people to fight over something. Nobody is clear of blame here, and it needs to be addressed if you need to heal the relationship and make up. Stop playing the blame game. Find a way to acknowledge your part in the argument. This can be effectively done if you stop trying to blame or wrong yourself or your partner for it. It may open up a whole new dialog and make the process of making up easier.
4. Communicate your feelings-Communicate openly and discuss your feelings frankly. Don’t hold anything back while discussing the problems. Don’t be harsh or purposefully hurtful. Make sure you have made your feelings clear to your partner. Holding back will just make it difficult to really repair whatever’s wrong. Get to the core issue and bring out what really is causing the problems. Try to work out the problem. This will help you to make up and also understand where you’re going wrong without arguing about it.
Don’t forget that a relationship is between two people. Always remember how much you love each other, and don’t let insignificant squabbles rile you and you start doubting whether or not it’s worth the effort to maintain the relationship. So many great couples have ruined their relationship because of the simple fights of life. Even grave problems can be worked out if you adopt mature attitude and face them as soon as they crop up instead of letting them fester.
Tags: Love, Relationship, break up, make up, lovers fight
Wed, August 13, 2008 10:07 am By James Coolridge
 If you are planning your first date, ensuring that everything falls into the right place from asking your girl out to choosing a day for the same are essentials you can’t afford to ignore. The most advisable days, however are the weekends when you can be relaxed and oblivious of your issues at work. But some people prefer week days for the reasons best known to them. Let’s see the pros and cons of weekends and weekdays so that you have the best to choose from!
So, when planning a date you may want to think about the attractiveness of a week night which can work to your benefit. But if you see, weekend is the only real free time people get. Well, the idea is not to make you diarized but again it is a fact of life in the early stages of dating and it helps too. However a week next Saturday for a date takes away some of the glamour I admit. For those thinking about weekdays, it is needless to say that they are fairly dull affairs in comparison and many take up hobbies or spend away rest of the time commuting.
The benefits!
Weekdays are far less formal than a weekend and a first date on a weeknight can be seen as far more relaxed and informal. Besides, week nights are not late night affairs and an unsuccessful date can be gently brought to an end. Therefore a dinner after work may be a good thing to wind up the day. All you need to do is just be yourself and go with the flow. You are not competing with some other glamorous occasion the girl could have attended so you are quite far away form facing any trouble.
Experience says that dating in the middle of the week also opens up the possibilities of more dates in a shorter amount of time and successful dates can be prolonged by now having them on weekends.
What if the girl says no to you?
All you need to do is be flexible with your arrangements. If a particular date or time does not suit the girl then be prepared to give her a choice of dates and locations. Also try to understand when she has reasons for doing other things and not choose to come with you. Most of the times when someone says no for a date, you automatically assume you are being given an excuse and that the truth lies elsewhere. This can prove to be a wrong habit. It is important for you to let her know that you are interested in her and that you don’t mind changing your plans because you care about what suits her and what not. The most imperative thing to be kept in mind here is the impression of you being too available because this may come across that you are uninteresting, or even worse, desperate.
Tags: First Date, girl, woman
Tue, August 12, 2008 10:04 am By James Coolridge
Sometimes despite giving our best, we fail to retain our women partners in our life, not to mention even attracting smart ladies for that matter. These are times when we go berserk thinking what more and what new can we try that’ll help us attract the women we want in our life. Well, this article will talk about exactly those mistakes which we ignorantly commit and eventually lose the game against our will.
Here you go!
Giving power to women!
Never think that you can impress a woman by giving all the power and command in their hands. Whereas some women might love this for the time being, you’ll soon realize that even she’s confused about what do to do with so much liberty that you’ve given her. Women are not attracted to men that they can walk all over. In other words, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants. This is a bad idea and never really works in the long run.
Doing the right thing at the right time!
Now this one’s a real eye opener! One of the most common mistakes committed by men and then eventually failing in a relationship, is not knowing what to do exactly in each type situation.
For those you are not aware, a woman always knows what you’re thinking.
Yes, women are very sharp when it comes to gauging what exactly is going on in a man’s head regarding that particular situation. And women are approximately ten times better than men at reading body language. This may come as a hard surprise to you but if you’re out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it. Besides, if you don’t know exactly what to do and exactly how to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won’t help! She won’t help because she expects you to know what she wants from you and intends to see you earning your way through it.
Thus it of prime importance that you know exactly how to go from one step to the next with a woman - from the first meeting to all the way to the bedroom. If you know the tricks of the trade, you are a winner all through or else you simply lose!
Tags: Relationship, Women
Mon, August 11, 2008 10:01 am By James Coolridge
 One of the age –old truths that have been prevailing as an essential part of relationships is the concept of proper timing. Be it regarding asking her out or the point in time when you actually meet, timing plays an eminent role in deciding whether or not you will go ahead in a relationship. This sole factor is responsible for damaging many a flourishing relationships and bonded many unexpected ones too. Well, this subject can run into many lines so the best concern will be to divide it into two articles or more. In this article we take a look into what it is and the situations we often confront under this.
Let’s start with some examples:
Meeting a great girl who wants to get married to you when you are aged 21 may just be wrong timing. Meeting a fantastic lady when you are working abroad or on a short trip in a different location may be bad timing. Meeting someone who wants children when you are not yet ready is again bad timing. This cannot be helped however. It is but a sad truth of life which we often confront in our lives at some time or the other. People we would have loved to have matured with are generally the ones we have encountered at a wrong time in our lives. And we are left with no option but to succumb to what has been served to us by the mystical maze called ‘life’.
There is so much more to it!
I remember the last time I asked a girl was just at a wrong moment. We are attracted to someone and take the initiative or opportunity, only to discover that she got married just two weeks earlier. Or we may find that she has just broken up with someone and is not yet ready for a new relationship. There can also be a family crisis and the girl you are interested in may not predisposed for a romantic encounter so all you hopes just die away in a jiffy. To top it all, if you add factors like illness, they only bring you sad news without you being at fault from any end.
On rare circumstances if someone accepts your proposal for a date then you can still control the timing somewhat better. It is best to go for a weekend because then you won’t need to go to work the following day and so can stay out later. If you want to make your weekend more memorable, you can go for some social events that are held with special themes. Going on a weekend works best because more restaurants open during that time.If you intend to have some fun or activity, then clubs, bars and discos are all far more attractive at a weekend and offer many more possibilities of dating.
The story still has a long way to go. If you truly identify with what’s mentioned then the forthcoming article is just an extension to this one. We’ll dig deeper into seeing how we can come out of such situations and more!
Tags: girl, relationships
Sun, August 10, 2008 9:57 am By James Coolridge
 If you haven’t dated a woman in years and your past record with women isn’t that good anyways, you needn’t worry. The solution lies in learning some simple dating rules which are common to all. Women are perhaps skilled in the art of dating warfare right from the time they are born. They have an emotional and a physical arsenal which men lack and invariably need to work upon in order to become as competent, if I may use the term.
So here are some simple but effective dating rules men need to follow in letter and spirit if they intend to come back home with a smile after the date.
Pay attention to looks:
You need to look your best. Get some decent clothes. Get clothes that fit you well, the shades that bring the best out of you. Don’t just buy one outfit; sort out your entire wardrobe. You should know what to wear for what occasion; for e.g. never even think of going to an opera wearing jeans. Always be dressed formally. Similarly, if you intend to go out for a dinner, wearing a t-shirt is a bad idea. What more? The shoes! Yes, women always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nike’s out was 1996. So buy a decent pair, something that goes well with your outfit.
Styling is a must!
By styling here I mean the way the look. If you really intend to have an everlasting affect on your lady, it is imperative that you look prim and proper. So the next thing you need to do is go down to the barbers and sort out your hair and get a decent style. If you don’t have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Other most important thing you need to manage is a good quality cologne and a grooming kit for yourself. Yes even if it’s expensive, you’ll have to shell some money on it because how you smell can make a world of a difference in deciding your future. Also get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it a lot.
Get a job!
Always keep in mind that women want a man who has some ambition in life so coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch. Well, any job is better than none, but there has to be some direction in your life towards what do you intend to do in future. How do you want to see yourself in times to come? Women like men who have a clear picture about what they want in life. Change job if need be but at least try and look like you have something of a career.
There is still a long list of tips to be shared. You find me talking more on this in my forth coming articles. Hope to see you in good health till then! So long!
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